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Story: The Millionaire and 3 person


 
There was a good-natured millionaire in the town. Three beggars thought of approaching him for help.
The first man went to the millionaire and said: "O Boss! I want five rupees. Please give me." The millionaire was taken aback at this man's impudence. "What! You demand five rupees from me as though I owe you the money! How dare you? How can I afford to give five rupees to a single beggar? Here, take these two rupees and get away," he said. The man went away with the two rupees.
The next beggar went to the millionaire and said: "Oh Boss! I have not taken a square meal for the past ten days. Please help me."
"How much do you want?" asked the millionaire.
"Whatever you give me," replied the beggar.
"Here, take this ten rupee note. You can have nice food for at least three days." The beggar walked away with the ten rupee note.
The third beggar came. "Oh Boss, I have heard about your noble qualities. Therefore, I have come to see you. Men of such charitable disposition are verily the manifestations of God on earth," he said.
"Please sit down," said the millionaire. "You appear to be tired. Please take this food," he said, and offered food to the beggar.
"Now please tell me what I can do for you."
"Oh Boss," replied the beggar; "I merely came to meet such a noble personage that you are. You have given me this rich food already. What more need I get from you? You have already shown extraordinary kindness towards me. May God bless you!"
But the millionaire, struck by the beggar's spirit, begged of the beggar to remain with him, built a decent house for him in his own compound, and looked after him for the rest of his life.
God is like this good millionaire. Three classes of people approach Him, with three different desires and prayers. There is the greedy man full of vanity, full of arrogance, full of desires. He demands the objects of worldly enjoyment from God. Since this man, whatever be his vile desires, has had the good sense to approach God, He grants him some part of the desired objects (even these very soon pass away, just as the two rupees the first beggar got are spent before nightfall).
 The other type of devotee prays to the Lord for relief from the sufferings of the world, but is better than the first one, in as much as he is ready to abide by His Will. To him the Lord grants full relief from suffering, and bestows on him much wealth and property.

The third type he merely prays to the Lord: "O Lord, Thou art Existence-Absolute, Knowledge-Absolute, Bliss-Absolute, etc., etc." What does he want? Nothing. But the Lord is highly pleased with his spirit of renunciation, of desirelessness and of self-surrender. Therefore, He makes him eat His own food, I.e., He grants this man Supreme Devotion to Himself. Over and above this, He makes the devotee to live in His own House For ever afterwards this devotee dwells in the Lord's Abode as a Liberated Sag


M Junaid Tahir
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Story: Need of a shark


 
The Japanese love fresh fish. But the waters around Japan have not held as many fish as they used to, for decades now. To feed the Japanese population, fishing boats got bigger and went farther than ever. The return trip took more time, and the fish were not fresh.

To solve this problem, fish companies installed freezers on their boats. However, the Japanese customers could taste the difference between fresh & frozen fish. And they did not like the taste
of frozen fish.

So, fishing companies installed fish tanks. They would catch the fish and stuff them in tanks, fin to fin. After a little thrashing around, they were tired, dull, and lost their fresh-fish taste. The fishing industry faced an impending crisis. But that was resolved and today, they get fresh- tasting fish in Japan. How did they manage to do that?

To keep the fish tasting fresh, the Japanese fishing companies still put the fish in the tanks but along with a small shark. To stay alive, the fish have to constantly stay on the move. Which also happens to keep them fresh!!

At work, sharks are the new challenges that we face every day, in current tasks or processes, or when facing customers .  You are active, energized & happy when  you are constantly conquering challenges. You have the resources, skills & abilities to make a difference. Think about innovative ways /ideas to overcome these challenges.

M Junaid Tahir
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Story: The Stone On the Road

One day a farmer, walking down the street in a small town came across a large stone in the middle of his path. The farmer complained: "Who could be so careless as to leave such a big stone on the road? Why does someone not remove it?" He went away complaining.
The next day, the same thing happened with a milkman. He too went away grumbling but left the stone as it was.
Then one day, a student came across the stone. Worried that someone may fall over it and hurt himself, he decided to push it aside. He pushed long and hard all by himself and eventually managed to remove the stone from the path. He came back and noticed a piece of paper where the stone was kept.
He picked the paper and opened it. Inside was written, "You are the true wealth of this nation."
There are two kinds of people
Talkers and doers.
Talkers merely talk, while doers do.
 The moral of this story is that if you don't want to get involved you have no right to criticize. Become the change you wish to see in this world.
Service to society is the rent we pay for the space we occupy on this earth

 
M Junaid Tahir
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Quotes from wise

A Lot Of Trouble Would Disappear

If Only People Would Learn To Talk To One Another

Instead Of Talking About One Another .....

 

When People Walk Away From You, Let Them Go.

Your Destiny Is Never Tied To Anyone Who Leaves You.

It Doesn't Mean They Are Bad People.

It Just Means That Their Part In Your Story Is Over.. !

 

People nowadays are like Bluetooth,

If you stay close they stay connected,

If you go away they find new devices...

 

Human Life Would Be Perfect If...
Anger Had A STOP Button

Mistakes Had A REWIND Button

Hard Times Had A FORWARD Button

And Good Times A PAUSE Button !!

 

Always Welcome Your Problems,

Because Problems Gives You Dual Advice,

Firstly, You Can Know How To Solve Them,

Secondly, You Learn How To Avoid Them In Future,

Have Faith In GOD And Yourself!

 

Reflection Cannot Be Seen In Boiling Water,

In The Same Way,

Truth Cannot Be Seen In A State Of Anger !

Analyze Before You Finalize.

 

Success Is Like A Beautiful Lover

It Will Leave Us At Anytime,

But Failure Is Like A Mother

It Will Teach Us Some Important Lessons Of Life!

 

A Good Heart Can Win Many Relationships,

A Good Nature Can Win Many Good Hearts!

 

A TOUCH Could HEAL A Wound

An Eye Could SPEAK Volumes

A SMILE Can Confirm I AM THERE !!

 

The Bird Asked The Bumblebee:

"You Work So Hard To Make The Honey And Humans Just Take It Away,

Doesn't It Make You Feel Bad?"

"No," Said The Bee, "Because They Will Never

Take From Me The Art Of Making It."


 
M Junaid Tahir
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Story: Me and dad

My dad only had one eye. I hated him... He was such an embarrassment. . He cooked for students & teachers to support the family. There was this one day during elementary school where my dad came to Say hello to me. I was so embarrassed. How could he do this to me? I ignored him, threw him a hateful look and ran out. The next day at school one of my classmates said, "EEEE, your dad only Has one eye!" I wanted to bury myself I also wanted my dad to just disappear.. I confronted him that day and said, " If you're only gonna make me a Laughing stock, why don't you just die?"
 
My dad did not respond.... I didn't even stop to think for a second about what I had said, because I was full of anger. I was oblivious to his feelings. I wanted out of that house, and have nothing to do with him. So I studied real hard, got a chance to go abroad to study.
 
Then, I got married. I bought a house of my own. I had kids of my own. I was happy with my life, my kids and the comforts, Then one day, my father came to visit me. He hadn't seen me in years and he didn't even meet his Grandchildren. When he stood by the door, my children laughed at him, and I yelled at Him for coming over uninvited. I screamed at him, "How dare you come to my house and scare my Children!" GET OUT OF HERE! NOW!!!" And to this, my father quietly answered, "Oh, I'm so sorry. I may have Gotten the wrong address," And he disappeared out of sight.
One day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house.. So I lied to my wife that I was going on a business trip. After the reunion, I went to the old shack just out of curiosity. My neighbors said that he died. I did not shed a single tear. They handed me a letter that he had wanted me to have.
 
"My dearest son, I think of you all the time. I'm sorry that I came to your house and Scared your children. I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion. But I may not be able to even get out of bed to see you. I'm sorry that I was a constant embarrassment to you when you were Growing up. You see........when you were very little, you got into an accident, and Lost your eye. As a father, I couldn't stand watching you Having to grow up with one eye. So I gave you mine. I was so proud of my son who was seeing a whole new world for me, in my Place, with that eye.
With all my love to you, Your father.
 
M Junaid Tahir
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Bad to Good: 8 Steps to Overcoming Bad Situations

So never a week passes without having to deal with something bad and you feel like you're a bad luck magnet. Well life has always been that unpredictable and part of it has to deal with sudden misfortunes and problems. Now your job is to get through it and move on, detach yourself from what's not helpful and focus on what give you a better day. Here are 8 ways to cope:

1. Free yourself of frustrations. Learn to let go of some of the negative energies inside because if you don't you'll probably find yourself exploding at one point. So go ahead and vent them out, get a journal, talk to a friend and release the negativity. Ventilating your frustrations will give enough room for positivity to come in; furthermore, it will give you a feeling of relief that can somehow change your mood and outlook.

2. Learn to be objective. Look into the situation carefully and detach yourself emotionally asthis can only cloud your judgment. When you learn to look at things at a more objective view, your judgments and decisions become a little more sound and wise. Emotions tend to cloud our judgement and that's no way to resolve a conflict.

3. Look around you – there are people who actually care. No matter how difficult the situation is, you need to realize that some people are actually there for you and that there's no need to detach yourself from them. Their guidance and advice can actually help you get through a bad time.

4. Change your mind set. You may think that all this emotional detachment will help you overcome a difficult time; think again and assess carefully. If you are not that hurt or traumatize, there might be no need to detach yourself, a little thinking and space will help you get back on your feet. Furthermore, keep in mind that you do have a choice – either to let these bad things overwhelm you or to let these stuffs make you a better person.

5. Shift your focus. Instead of wallowing in emotional hurt and detaching yourself from people who care about you, try focusing on what you can do. You have always been faced with difficult situations but you've always managed to get out of it alive. What's keeping you from doing so this time then? Being frustrated will never help resolve the problem. You need to focus on your strengths rather than your weakness.


6. Do not be afraid to ask help. You might feel that emotional detachment from other people have left you with no one; you're wrong. Do not be afraid to reach out and ask for help. Call you closest friend or your sister, talk to someone. Asking for help is never a sign of weakness; it shows that you are brave enough to acknowledge that you cannot handle things on your own.

7. Constantly challenge yourself to overcome bad situations. Think of the countless times you've been faced with trials and problems which you thought you would never surpass but did. Use these moments and experiences as a source to fuel your spirit to continue fighting and winning!

8. Extract the lessons learned. Detaching yourself from people and hurtful things might be difficult but they sure did have valuable lessons for you. Take these lessons and ponder on them; they might come in handy one of these days. Most of the times, we learn to appreciate the lessons after we have conquered and battled through the fight; much like enjoying and appreciating the rainbow after the storm

 
M Junaid Tahir
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Garden, Grass and Garbage

By Junaid Tahir

There is a garden near the place I live. My kids enjoy playing there. The garden service team trims the grass every 3-4 weeks. When the grass is trimmed it looks so lively, lovely and fresh. Kids enjoy and spend more time in the garden. After 2 weeks or so, the grass starts getting taller and turning yellow. This makes the garden unattractive. Also I noticed that the day grass is trimmed and someone throws a cigarette box or any other garbage it looks extremely bad however when the grass is taller and someone throws something, it's hardly visible.

If I consider the grass as human brain and the grass as negative thoughts and cigarette box as stress then I learn a very good moral from this analogy. Let me explain this: When I don't have any negative thoughts and stress I have a beautiful, powerful and fresh mind offering great services to the society, family and all humanity. However if I have negative thoughts (and in turn negative behavior) I start becoming the point of concern for the society, family, friends and colleagues. And when I have too many negative thoughts, I start nourishing roots of stress even if I don't know about it, just like the cigarette box not visible when grass is tall. Hence it is recommended to 'trim the grass' quite often. In my analogy, trimming the grass means to throw away unnecessary thoughts  and clean the mind from such garbage. When I have a clean mind (like trimmed grass), I can easily identify the roots of stress (cigarette box in trimmed grass) and easily handle the situation with my analytical skills eventually making my life more beautiful.  

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About Author: Junaid Tahir, a telecom engineer and a blogger, writes articles on wisdom, happiness and stress management. His articles can be read Here


Peace of Mind in Daily Life

Stress is a normal part of life. Everyday we are face with countless task that they sometimes become over-whelming and cause us to stress out. Here are 15 ways you can overcome daily stress and maintain a happy life.

1. Eliminate unnecessary commitments
2. Stop over analyzing and start doing.
3. Do one thing at a time.
4. Learn to say no and really mean it.
5. Don't compare yourself to others. Life is not a contest.
6. Find reason to laugh. Even laughing at yourself helps.
7. Let go of trying to control everything.
8. Walk away from anything or anyone that makes you miserable.
9. Practice gratitude. That you are alive is still a gift
10 Control over expectation to avoid disappointment.
11.Stop being a perfectionist and move on.
12. Don't stress out trying to get everyone to agree with you.
13. Stop longing for the past and start living in the present.
14. Don't trade sleep for work and don't trade family time for work. Be balanced.
15. Help others whenever it is within your power to do so.

Peace of mind is something everyone should strive to attain, to someone people is comes easily, for other, it takes more learning and practice. Here is a guide that will help you get ride of unnecessary stress, live happily and enjoy peace of mind. check it out here. http://bit.ly/WJ4LsQ

 
M Junaid Tahir
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How to Overcome Negativity for Good.

It's difficult to control the words people use on us and some people get their kicks by saying hurtful things. Here are some of the few things you can do to keep your happiness and prevent negative words from ruining your day.


1. If someone tries to offend or belittle you, do not participate in his or her game. If you do not participate in the game, he or she will leave you, since t takes two to play the game.

2. Tell yourself that you are going to stay calm, happy and positive, no matter what people say or do. Repeat these words often, until your mind accepts them unconditionally.

3. Give people the benefit of the doubt. Don't assume someone is trying to offend or hurt you. Sometimes, they might be just joking or maybe they are having a bad day.

4. Pause briefly and think, before reacting instinctively or getting emotional. Maybe people are not referring to you? Don't jump to conclusions, without thinking first.

Remember; while you can't control what people say, your reaction is your sole responsibility. Have a great Week.


James Idayi

http://www.emotional-detachment.com

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M Junaid Tahir
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Story: The Monkey Business :)

Once upon a time in a village a man appeared who announced to the villagers that he would buy monkeys for Rs. 10K. The villagers seeing that there were many monkeys went out in the forest and started catching them. The man bought thousands at 10K and as supply started to diminish and villagers started to stop their effort he announced that now he would buy at 20K rupees.

This renewed the efforts of the villagers and they started catching moneys again. Soon the supply diminished even further and people started going back to their farms. The offer rate increased to 25K and the supply of monkeys became so that it was an effort to even see a monkey let alone catch it.
The man now announced that he would buy monkeys at 50K! However, since he had to go to the city on some business his assistant would now buy on behalf of the man. In the absence of the man, the assistant told the villagers. Look at all these monkeys in the big cage that the man has collected. I will sell them to you at 35K and when the man comes back you can sell it to him for 50K. The villagers queued up with all their saving to buy the monkeys.
Phir na tau aadmi mila na us ka assistant. Sirf bandar hee bandar

 
M Junaid Tahir
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6 People You Need in Your Corner

Nothing incredible is accomplished alone. You need others to help you, and you need to help others. With the right team, you can form a web of connections to make the seemingly impossible practically inevitable.

The Instigator:






Someone who pushes you, who makes you think. Who motivates you to get up and go, and try, and make things happen. You want to keep this person energized, and enthusiastic. This is the voice of inspiration.


The Cheerleader:





This person is a huge fan, a strong supporter, and a rabid evangelist for you and your work. Work to make this person rewarded, to keep them engaged. This is the voice of motivation.

The Doubter:







This is the devil's advocate, who asks the hard questions and sees problems before they arise. You need this person's perspective. They are looking out for you, and want you to be as safe as you are successful. This is the voice of reason.

The Taskmaster:


 
This is the loud and belligerent voice that demands you gets things done. This person is the steward of momentum, making sure deadlines are met and goals are reached. This is the voice of progress.

The Connector:





This person can help you find new avenues and new allies. This person breaks through roadblocks into finds ways to make magic happen. You need this person to reach people and places you can't. This is the voice of cooperation and community.

The Example:






This is your mentor, you hero, your North Star. This is the person who you seek to emulate. This is your guiding entity, someone whose presence acts as a constant reminder that you, too, can do amazing things. You want to make this person proud. This is the voice of true authority.