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Refreshing the Famous 90/10 Principle

The Famous 90-10 Principle says:
 "10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react
"


What does this mean?

We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. You determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of milk onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your wife and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.
You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. After a 15-minute delay you arrive at school. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter.

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the cup of hot milk cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did you cause it?
The answer is

C


You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, getting stressed out etc.
The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. Next time you react to any situation, remember the 90-10 principle.

K.N.RAJAN

Amazing Wonders of The World!

From the mysterious sailing stones of death valley to red tides, ornage moons and ice circles - our world is full of these bizarre phenomena!Here are 13 of the most interesting wonders of this planet!


1. Sailing Stones

 
The mysterious moving stones of the packed-mud desert of Death Valley have been a center of scientific controversy for decades. Rocks weighing up to hundreds of pounds have been known to move up to hundreds ofyards at a time. 

 
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Some scientists have proposed that a combination of strong winds and surface ice account for these movements. However, this theory does not explain evidence of different rocks starting side by side and moving at different rates and in disparate directions. Moreover, the physics calculations do not fully support this theory as wind speeds ofhundreds of miles per hour would be needed to move some of the stones


 

2. Columnar Basalt

 
When a thick lava flow cools, it contracts vertically but cracks perpendicular to its directional flow with remarkable geometric regularity-in most cases forming a regular grid of remarkable hexagonal extrusionsthat almost appear to be made by man. 

 
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One of the most famous such examples is the Giants Causewayon the coast ofIreland (shown above), though the largest and most widely recognized would be Devils Tower in Wyoming. Basalt also forms different but equally fascinating ways when eruptions are exposed to air or water.


 

3. Blue Holes

Blue holes are giant and sudden drops in underwater elevation that get their name from the dark and foreboding blue tone they exhibit when viewed from above in relationship to surrounding waters. They can be hundreds of feet deep and while divers are able to explore some of them they are largely devoid of oxygen that would support sea lifedue to poor water circulation - leaving them eerily empty. 

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Some blue holes, however, contain ancient fossil remains that have been discovered, preserved in their depths.

4. Red Tides


 
Red tides are also known as algal blooms sudden influxes of massive amounts of colored single-cell algae that can convert entire areas of an ocean or beach into a blood red color. While some of these can be relatively harmless, others can be harbingers of deadly toxins that cause the deaths of fish, birds and marine mammals.

 
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 In some cases, even humans have been harmed by red tides though no human exposure are known to have been fatal. While they can be fatal, the constituent phytoplankton in red tides are not harmful in small numbers. 

5. Ice Circles


 
While many see these apparently perfect ice circles as worthy of conspiracy theorizing, scientists generally accept that they are formed by eddies in the water that spin a sizable piece of ice in acircular motion. As a result of this rotation, other pieces of ice and flotsam wear relatively evenly at the edges of the ice until it slowly forms into an essentially ideal circle. 

 
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Ice circles have been seen with diameters of over 500 feet and can also at times be found in clusters and groups of different sizes as shown above.

6. Mammatus Clouds


 
True to their ominous appearance, mammatus clouds are often harbingers of a coming storm or other extreme weather system. Typically composed primarily of ice, they can extend for hundreds of miles in each direction and individual formations can remain visibly static for ten to fifteen minutes at a time. While they may appear foreboding they are merely the messengers - appearing around, before or even after severe weather.

 
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7. Fire Rainbows

A circumhorizontal fire rainbow arc occurs at a rare confluence of right time and right place for the sun and certain clouds. Crystals within the clouds refract light into the various visible waves of the spectrum but only if they are arrayed correctly relative to the ground below. 

 
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Due to the rarity with which all of these events happen in conjunction with one another, there are relatively few remarkable photos of this phenomenon.

8.Sinkholes

Sinkholes are one of the worlds scariest natural phenomena.

 
Over time, water erodes the soil under the planets surface until in some cases, quite suddenly,the land above gives way and collapses into the earth. Many sinkholes occur naturally while others are the result of human intervention. 

 
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Displacing groundwater can open cavities while broken pipes can erode otherwise stable subterranean sediments. Urban sinkholes, up to hundreds of feet deep have formed and consumed parts of city blocks, sidewalks and even entire buildings.

 


 

9. Penitentes

 
Named after peak-hooded New Mexican monks (lower right above), penitentes are dazzling naturally-forming ice blades that stick up at sharp angles toward the sun. Rarely found except at high altitudes, they can grow up taller than a human and form in vast fields. 

 
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As ice melts in particular patterns, valleys formed by initial melts leave mountains in their wake. Strangely, these formations ultimately slow the melting process as the peaks cast shadows on the deeper surfaces below and allow for winds to blow over the peaks, cooling them.


 

10. Lenticular Clouds

 
Ever wonder the truth about UFOs?

 
Avoided by traditional pilots but loved by sailplane aviators, lenticular clouds are masses of cloud with strong internal uplift that can drive a motorless flyer to high elevations. Their shape is quite often mistaken for a mysterious flying object or the artificial cover for one. 

 
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Generally, lenticular clouds are formed as wind speeds up while moving around a large land object such as a mountain.

11. Sundogs


 
Sundogs are the product of light passing through crystals. The particular shape and orientation of the crystals can have a drastic visual impact for the viewer, producing a longer tail and changing the range of colors one sees. The relative height of the sun in the sky shifts the distance the sundogs appear to be on either side of the sun. 

 
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Varying climactic conditions on otherplanets in our solar system produce halos with up to four sundogs from those planets perspectives. Sundogs have been speculated about and discussed since ancient times and written records describing the various attributes of our sun date back the Egyptians and Greeks. 


 

12. Fire Whirls

 
Fire whirls (also known as fire devils or tornadoes) appear in or around raging fires when the right combination of climactic conditions is present. Fire whirls can be spawned by other natural events such as earthquakes and thunderstorms, and can be incredibly dangerous, in some cases spinning well out of the zone of a fire itself to cause devastation and death in a radius not even reached by heat or flame. 
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Fire whirls have been known to be nearly a mile high, have wind speeds of over 100 miles per hour and to last for 20 or more minutes.

13. Orange Moons


 
This last phenomena is something most people have seen before - beautiful orange moon hanging low in the sky. But what causes this phenomena? And, for that matter, does the moon have a color at all? When the moon appears lower on the horizon,rays of light bouncing off ithave to pass through a great deal more of our atmosphere which slowly strips away everything but yellows, oranges and reds. 

 
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The bottommost image above is true to the hues of the moon but has enhanced colors to more clearly show the differences in shade that illustrate the mixed topography and minerology that tell the story of the moons surface. Looking at the colors in combination with the craters one can start to trace the history of impacts and consequent material movements across the face of our mysterious moon.

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10 Deadly Signs of Negative Thinking


The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful." - 
Life could be so much better for many people, if they would just spot their negative thinking habits and replace them with positive ones.

Negative thinking, in all its many-splendored forms, has a way of creeping into conversations and our thinking without our noticing them. The key to success, in my humble opinion, is learning to spot these thoughts and squash them like little bugs. Then replace them with positive ones. You'll notice a huge difference in everything you do.

Let's take a look at 10 common ways that negative thinking emerges —
get good at spotting these patterns, and practice replacing them with
positive thinking patterns. It has made all the difference in the
world for me.


10 Deadly Sins of Negative Thinking

1. I will be happy once I have _____ (or once I earn X).

Problem: If you think you can't be happy until you reach a certain
point, or until you reach a certain income, or have a certain type of
house or car or computer setup, you'll never be happy. That elusive
goal is always just out of reach. Once we reach those goals, we are
not satisfied — we want more.

Solution: Learn to be happy with what you have, where you are, and who
you are, right at this moment. Happiness doesn't have to be some state
that we want to get to eventually — it can be found right now. Learn
to count your blessings, and see the positive in your situation. This
might sound simplistic, but it works.

2. I wish I were as ____ as (a celebrity, friend, co-worker).
Problem: We'll never be as pretty, as talented, as rich, as sculpted,
as cool, as everyone else. There will always be someone better, if you
look hard enough. Therefore, if we compare ourselves to others like
this, we will always pale, and will always fail, and will always feel
bad about ourselves. This is no way to be happy.

Solution: Stop comparing yourself to others, and look instead at
yourself — what are your strengths, your accomplishments, your
successes, however small? What do you love about yourself? Learn to
love who you are, right now, not who you want to become. There is good
in each of us, love in each of us, and a wonderful human spirit in
every one of us.


3. Seeing others becoming successful makes me jealous and resentful.
Problem: First, this assumes that only a small number of people can be
successful. In truth, many, many people can be successful — in
different ways.

Solution: Learn to admire the success of others, and learn from it,
and be happy for them, by empathizing with them and understanding what
it must be like to be them. And then turn away from them, and look at
yourself — you can be successful too, in whatever you choose to do.
And even more, you already are successful. Look not at those above you
in the social ladder, but those below you — there are always millions
of people worse off than you, people who couldn't even read this
article or afford a computer. In that light, you are a huge success.


4. I am a miserable failure — I can't seem to do anything right.

Problem: Everyone is a failure, if you look at it in certain ways.
Everyone has failed, many times, at different things. I have certainly
failed so many times I cannot count them — and I continue to fail,
daily. However, looking at your failures as failures only makes you
feel bad about yourself. By thinking in this way, we will have a
negative self-image and never move on from here.

Solution: See your successes and ignore your failures. Look back on
your life, in the last month, or year, or 5 years. And try to remember
your successes. If you have trouble with this, start documenting them
— keep a success journal, either in a notebook or online. Document
your success each day, or each week. When you look back at what you've
accomplished, over a year, you will be amazed. It's an incredibly
positive feeling.


5. I'm going to beat so-and-so no matter what — I'm better than him.

And there's no way I'll help him succeed — he might beat me.

Problem: Competitiveness assumes that there is a small amount of gold
to be had, and I need to get it before he does. It makes us into
greedy, back-stabbing, hurtful people. We try to claw our way over
people to get to success, because of our competitive feelings. For
example, if a blogger wants to have more subscribers than another
blogger, he may never link to or mention that other blogger. However,
who is to say that my subscribers can't also be yours? People can read
and subscribe to more than one blog.

Solution: Learn to see success as something that can be shared, and
learn that if we help each other out, we can each have a better chance
to be successful. Two people working towards a common goal are better
than two people trying to beat each other up to get to that goal.
There is more than enough success to go around. Learn to think in
terms of abundance rather than scarcity.


6. Dammit! Why do these bad things always happen to me?

Problem: Bad things happen to everybody. If we dwell on them, they
will frustrate us and bring us down.

Solution: See bad things as a part of the ebb and flow of life.
Suffering is a part of the human condition — but it passes. All pain
goes away, eventually. Meanwhile, don't let it hold you back. Don't
dwell on bad things, but look forward towards something good in your
future. And learn to take the bad things in stride, and learn from
them. Bad things are actually opportunities to grow and learn and get
stronger, in disguise.


7. You can't do anything right! Why can't you be like ____ ?

Problem: This can be said to your child or your subordinate or your
sibling. The problem? Comparing two people, first of all, is always a
fallacy. People are different, with different ways of doing things,
different strengths and weaknesses, different human characteristics.
If we were all the same, we'd be robots. Second, saying negative
things like this to another person never helps the situation. It might
make you feel better, and more powerful, but in truth, it hurts your
relationship, it will actually make you feel negative, and it will
certainly make the other person feel negative and more likely to
continue negative behavior. Everyone loses.

Solution: Take the mistakes or bad behavior of others as an
opportunity to teach. Show them how to do something. Second, praise
them for their positive behavior, and encourage their success. Last,
and most important, love them for who they are, and celebrate their
differences.


8. Your work sucks. It's super lame. You are a moron and I hope you
never reproduce.

Problem: I've actually gotten this comment before. It feels wonderful.
However, let's look at it not from the perspective of the person
receiving this kind of comment but from the perspective of the person
giving it. How does saying something negative like this help you? I
guess it might feel good to vent if you feel like your time has been
wasted. But really, how much of your time has been wasted? A few
minutes? And whose fault is that? The bloggers or yours? In truth,
making negative comments just keeps you in a negative mindset. It's
also not a good way to make friends.

Solution: Learn to offer constructive solutions, first of all. Instead
of telling someone their blog sucks, or that a post is lame, offer
some specific suggestions for improvement. Help them get better. If
you are going to take the time to make a comment, make it worth your
time. Second, learn to interact with people in a more positive way —
it makes others feel good and it makes you feel better about yourself.
And you can make some great friends this way. That's a good thing.


9. Insulting People Back

Problem: If someone insults you or angers you in some way, insulting
them back and continuing your anger only transfers their problem to
you. This person was probably having a bad day (or a bad year) and
took it out on you for some reason. If you reciprocate, you are now
having a bad day too. His problem has become yours. Not only that, but
the cycle of insults can get worse and worse until it results in
violence or other negative consequences — for both of you.

Solution: Let the insults or negative comments of others slide off you
like Teflon. Don't let their problem become yours. In fact, try to
understand their problem more — why would someone say something like
that? What problems are they going through? Having a little empathy
for someone not only makes you understand that their comment is not
about you, but it can make you feel and act in a positive manner
towards them — and make you feel better about yourself in the process.


10. I don't think I can do this — I don't have enough discipline.
Maybe some other time.

Problem: If you don't think you can do something, you probably won't.
Especially for the big stuff. Discipline has nothing to do with it —
motivation and focus has everything to do with it. And if you put
stuff off for "some other time", you'll never get it done. Negative
thinking like this inhibits us from accomplishing anything.
Solution: Turn your thinking around: you can do this! You don't need
discipline. Find ways to make yourself a success at your goal. If you
fail, learn from your mistakes, and try again. Instead of putting a
goal off for later, start now. And focus on one goal at a time,
putting all of your energy into it, and getting as much help from
others as you can. You can really move mountains if you start with
positive thinking

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7 Steps For Melting Anger On The Spot

 Anger is a lethal force that undermines our lives in all kinds of ways. Sometimes it erupts openly and other times anger camouflages it and covertly undermines your life. Some experience anger as strength and power. They feel it is necessary in order to maintain control. Others assume they have the right to express anger towards those in their lives. These are some of the lies anger tells us. In fact, when we are angry we are out of control and our ability to respond wisely is diminished.

 Here are 7 steps for handling anger on the spot.

 Step 1: Realize that anger is a choice you make

 Anger is not a form of power, strength, or control. It is a toxin. Sometimes it provides a temporary high. After this high subsides, we are left weaker and more uncertain than before. Not only that, there are often negative consequences that have to be handled.

 Basically anger narrows your focus, creates confusion and limits your ability to find constructive solutions. When anger arises, stop, breathe deeply, and immediately look at the larger perspective. Put the incident in context. For a moment, allow the other person to be "right". Tell yourself you have plenty of time to be right later. Your main goal is to have the anger subside so you can see the whole picture clearly.

 Step 2: Become aware of the 24 forms of anger

 Anger camouflages itself and finds many covert ways of manifesting. Unrecognized anger turns into all kinds of unwanted behavior. When these behaviors are not understood it is very difficult to correct them. Awareness is important in making necessary changes.

 Some of the 24 forms of anger are: depression, passive aggressive behavior, compulsions, perfectionism, gossiping and certain kinds of competition at the workplace. When you realize that these are being fuelled by anger, you can take appropriate steps to handle them.

 Step 3: Start Relationship Balancing

 Relationship Balancing is the natural flow of energy, support and inspiration between individuals. When this flow is balanced individuals operate at their maximum level. When the flow is blocked or out of balance, individuals become depressed, apathetic, sick and resentful. When one feels needed and acknowledged, there is no end to their ability to tap their full potential. Envision balanced relationships. Write down what this means to you and notice how it compares to the reality of your particular situation. This initial step provides a map and new focus. It provides a direction to move in.

 Step 4: Discover Your Relationship Balancing Quotient

 List each individual you interact with. Score each person on the following questions from 1-10. See for yourself what is going on.

 

a) I I feel at ease with this person.

b) I trust this person.

c) I communicate naturally with this person.

d) I understand what they're communicating to me.

e) I am able to ask this person for what I want from them.

f) I am able to give this person what they want from me.

 Assess exactly what is going on in your important relationships. Take a look at what you want from each relationship. Separate your needs and wants. Start communicating your feelings in a responsible manner and asking for what you really need and want. Start truly listening to the other, to who they actually are, not your images or agendas for them.

 We can often be in a relationship with a person for a long time and not even begin to know who they truly are. As you begin taking the steps above, you will make natural adjustments in getting this relationship back on track.

 Step 5: Stop Casting Blame

 Blaming others is one of the largest factors in causing imbalance in your relationships and keeping the anger going. Stop casting blame. By blaming others you are disempowering yourself. By taking responsibility you are taking back control. Stop a moment and see the situation through your opponent's eyes. When you do this blame dissolves on the spot. Also, remember, the best defense against being hurt is to feel good about yourself and the way a person responds to you says more about them, than about you.

 As you stop casting blame you will be letting go of all kinds of resentments. Resentment inevitably affects our well-being and always bounces back on us. Look for and find what is positive in each individual. Focus on that.

 Step 6 - Create Realistic Expectations

 There is nothing that makes us more angry and hurt than expectations we've been holding onto that have not been met. It is important that you become aware of what your expectations are for your relationships. Are they realistic? Does the other person hold expectations that are similar? Let go of unrealistic fantasies. Once this is done, much opportunity for anger diminishes on the spot.

 Step 7 – Develop A Grateful Mind

 See what different people in your lives are truly giving to you. We often take many things for granted and are even unaware of all that we are receiving day by day. Take time to write down each day what you are receiving. Be grateful for that. Make a point of giving thanks. The more we thank others, the happier we become. Also, take time to write down all that you have given others that day. It may be a surprise. We often think we are giving so much and receiving so little. This is a great cause of anger, deprivation and emptiness within. However, when we take time daily to write it down and look at it carefully, we are often surprised and how much we have received and how little given in return. As we look at it carefully, and balance these two activities, we learn to take pleasure both in what we have given and what has been received.

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Story: House of 1000 Mirrors


Long ago in a small, far away village, there was place known as the House of 1000 Mirrors.

A small, happy little dog learned of this place and decided to visit. When he arrived, he bounced happily up the stairs to the doorway of the house.

He looked through the doorway with his ears lifted high and his tail wagging as fast as it could. To his great surprise, he found himself staring at 1000 other happy little dogs with their tails wagging just as fast as his. He smiled a great smile, and was answered with 1000 great smiles just as warm and friendly. As he left the House, he thought to himself, "This is a wonderful place. I will come back and visit it often."

In this same village, another little dog, who was not quite as happy as the first one, decided to visit the house. He slowly climbed the stairs and hung his head low as he looked into the door.

When he saw the 1000 unfriendly looking dogs staring back at him, he growled at them and was horrified to see 1000 little dogs growling back at him. As he left, he thought to himself, "That is a horrible place, and I will never go back there again."

All the faces in the world are mirrors. What kind of reflections do you see in the faces of the people you meet?

Story: The Three Dolls



A sage presented a prince with a set of three small dolls. The prince was not amused.
 
“Am I a girl that you give me dolls?” – He asked.
“This is a gift for a future king,” Said the sage. “If you look carefully, you’ll see a hole in the ear of each doll.”
 
The sage handed him a piece of string. “Pass it through each doll.” – He said.
 
Intrigued, the prince picked up the first doll and put the string into the ear. It came out from the other ear. “This is one type of person,” said the sage, “whatever you tell him, comes out from the other ear. He doesn’t retain anything.”
 
The prince put the string into the second doll. It came out from the mouth. “This is the second type of person,” said the sage, “whatever you tell him, he tells everybody else.”
 
The prince picked up the third doll and repeated the process. The string did not come out. “This is the third type of person,” said the sage, “whatever you tell him is locked up within him. It never comes out.”
 
“What is the best type of person?” – Asked the prince.
 
The sage handed him a fourth doll, in answer. When the prince put the string into the doll, it came out from the other ear.
 
 “Do it again.” – Said the sage.
 
The prince repeated the process. This time the string came out from the mouth. When he put the string in a third time, it did not come out at all.
 
“This is the best type of person,” said the sage. “To be trustworthy, a man must know when not to listen, when to remain silent and when to speak out.”


Joke with Lesson

A hat-seller who was passing by a forest decided to take a nap under
one of the trees, so he left his whole basket of hats by the side.
A few hours later, he woke up and realized that all his hats were gone.
He looked up and to his surprise, the tree was full of monkeys and they had taken all
his hats.

The hat-seller sits down and thinks of how he can get the hats down.
While thinking he started to scratch his head. The next moment, the monkeys were doing
the same. Next, he took down his own hat, the monkeys did exactly the same. An
idea came to him, he took his hat and threw it on the floor and the monkeys
did that too. So he finally managed to get all his hats back.

Fifty years later, his grandson,Tim, also became a hat-seller and
had heard this monkey story from his grandfather. One day, just like his
grandfather, he passed by the same forest. It was very hot, and he took a nap under
the same tree and left the hats on the floor.

He woke up and realized that all his hats were taken by the monkeys on
the tree. He remembered his grand father's words, started scratching his head and the monkeys followed. He took down his hat and fanned himself and again the monkeys followed. Now, very convinced of his grandfather's idea, Tim threw his hat on the floor but to his
surprise, the monkeys still held on to all the hats. Then one monkey climbed down
the tree, grabbed the hat on the floor, gave him a slap and said.................

"You think only you have a grandfather?"

The market is dynamic and the strategy which works today may not work tomorrow, hence, the need of continuous innovations.


Story: The Doctor and the Father

A doctor entered the hospital in hurry after being called in for an urgent surgery. He answered the call asap, changed his clothes & went directly to the surgery block. He found the boy’s father pacing in the hall waiting for the doctor.

On seeing him, the dad yelled:
“Why did you take all this time to come? Don’t you know that my son’s life is in danger? Don’t you have any sense of responsibility?”

The doctor smiled & said:
“I am sorry, I wasn’t in the hospital & I came as fast as I could after receiving the call…… And now, I wish you’d calm down so that I can do my work”

“Calm down?! What if your son was in this room right now, would you calm down? If your own son dies now what will you do??” said the father angrily

The doctor smiled again & replied: “I will say what Job said in the Holy Book “From dust we came & to dust we return, blessed be the name of God”. Doctors cannot prolong lives. Go & intercede for your son, we will do our best by God’s grace”

“Giving advises when we’re not concerned is so easy” Murmured the father.

The surgery took some hours after which the doctor went out happy,
“Thank goodness!, your son is saved!” And without waiting for the father’s reply he carried on his way running. “If you have any questions, ask the nurse!!”

“Why is he so arrogant? He couldn’t wait some minutes so that I ask about my son’s state” Commented the father when seeing the nurse minutes after the doctor left.

The nurse answered, tears coming down her face: “His son died yesterday in a road accident, he was at the burial when we called him for your son’s surgery. And now that he saved your son’s life, he left running to finish his son’s burial.”

Moral:
1- Never judge anyone….. because you never know how their life is & what they’re going through”
2- People who jump the gun in most cases happen to be foul mouthed. "Just keep away from them".

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Story: The Old Man, his Wife and the Doctor



"I am a doctor working at a little clinic. At about 8:15am on a Tuesday morning, an old man in his 80's walked into my clinic to get out some stitches he received a few days before.

It was a very busy morning, and I asked him to please sit and wait. He told me he was in a rush, as he had a very important engagement at 9am he couldn't miss.  As he sat there,  I couldn't help noticing that he kept cecking his watch. I decided to treat him since the doctor in charge was extremely busy, and I knew it would take at least an hour until he could see him.


I took off his bandages and saw that the wound was healing nicely. While I was gently pulling out the stitches, I asked him where he was off to that was more important than taking out stitches.  Was it also with a doctor?



"No," said the old man, "not a doctor. I am going to have breakfast with my wife, who is in the hospital."

"Why was she hospitilized, if I may ask?" 
"She's been there for a few years now," he answered. "she has Alzheimer's and needs constant care."
As I finished taking out the stitches, I asked the man if his wife would be worried if he were late to their breakfast.
"No," he said quietly, "and she never will. She hasn't recognized me in over five years."

I was astounded by this and just had to ask: "And you go to her every morning although she doesn't know who you are?"

The man smiled, put his hand on mine and said: "She may not know who I am, but I know who she is, and I remember for both of us."  And he shook my hand, thanked me and left me standing there, my body shaking with sudden emotion. 


image of old couple on a bench


"This," I said to myself, "this is what true love, movie love, is all about. This is what I want for myself." And I vowed, at that moment, to find such love.


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