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Story: The President's Father

On his first day in office, the President entered to give his inaugural address, one man stood up. He was a rich aristocrat. He said, "Mr. President, you should not forget that your father used to make shoes for my family." And the whole Senate laughed; they thought they had made a fool of President.

But certain people are made of a totally different mettle. President looked at the man directly in the eye and said, "Sir, I know that my father used to make shoes for your family, and there will be many others here, because he made shoes the way nobody else can.

He was a creator. His shoes were not just shoes; he poured his whole soul into them. I want to ask you, have you any complaint? Because I know how to make shoes myself. If you have any complaint I can make you another pair of shoes. But as far as I know, nobody has ever complained about my father's shoes. He was a genius, a great creator and I am proud of my father".

The whole Senate was struck dumb. They could not understand what kind of man the President was. He was proud because his father did his job so well that not even a single complaint had ever been heard.

Remember: "No one can hurt you without your consent. It is not what happens to us that hurts us. It is our response that hurts us"

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Story:The best pay back

One day, a poor boy who was selling goods from door to door to pay his way through school, found he had only one thin dime left, and he was hungry.

He decided he would ask for a meal at the next house. However, he lost his nerve when a lovely young woman opened the door. Instead of a meal he asked for a drink of water.

She thought he looked hungry so brought him a large glass of milk He drank it slowly, and then asked, "How much do I owe you?" "You don't owe me anything,"
she replied "Mother has taught us never to accept payment for a kindness."

He said... "Then I thank you from my heart."

As Howard Kelly left that house, he not only felt; stronger physically, but his faith in God and man was strong also. He had been ready to give up and quit.

Years later that young woman became critically ill. The local doctors were baffled.

They finally sent her to the big city, where they called in specialists to study her rare disease. Dr. Howard Kelly was called in for the consultation.

When he heard the name of the town she came from, a strange light filled his eyes. Immediately he rose and went down the hall of the hospital to her room. Dressed in his doctor's gown he went in to see her.

He recognized her at once. He went back to the consultation room determined to do his best to save her life. From that day he gave special attention to the case. After a long struggle, the battle was won. Dr. Kelly requested the business office to pass the final bill to him for approval. He looked at it, then wrote something on the edge and the bill was sent to her room. She feared to open it, for she was sure it would take the rest of her life to pay for it all. Finally, she looked, and something caught her attention on the side as she read these words...... " Paid in full with one glass of milk."

(Signed) Dr. Howard Kelly.

Tears of joy flooded her eyes as her happy heart prayed: "Thank You, GOD, that Your love has spread abroad through human hearts and hands."

Send me the Flowers Now

​This message is beyond all relationships, read this poem... it's touching reality!

When I'll be dead:
 _Your tears will flow,._
 But I won 't know...
 Cry for me now instead!

 _you will send flowers,.._
 But I won't see...
 Send them now instead !

 _you'll say words of praise,.._
 But I won't hear..
 Praise me now instead !

 _you'll forget my faults,.._
 But I won't know...
 Forget them now, instead !

 _you'll miss me then,..._
 But I won't feel...
 Miss me now, instead

_you'll wish..._
you could have spent more time with me,...
Spend it now instead !!


Embrace Change

Embrace Change

When you are aware and accept that everything around you is constantly changing, and that you have no control over 99.99% of it, you are able to embrace change like a close friend!
Change is a like a river, constantly flowing and moving things around. The river of life is constantly bringing you ideas, people, situations - each one is an opportunity to be enriched or to enrich others, and to learn.
Change is the play of the universe as it entertains us in the biggest light and sound show of all time. Why not sit back and enjoy the show?

​Relax Sweetheart; It’s just a Bend, not the End!

Written by Sophia Loren

When I got enough confidence, the stage was gone…..
When I was sure of Losing, I won…….
When I needed People the most, they Left me…….
When I learnt to dry my Tears, I found a shoulder to Cry on……
When I mastered the Skill of Hating, Someone started Loving me from the core of the Heart……
And, while waiting for Light for Hours when I fell asleep, the Sun came out…..

That's LIFE!!

No matter what you Plan, you never know what Life has Planned for you…
Success introduces you to the World……. But Failure introduces the World to you……. ……

Always be Happy!! Often when we lose Hope and think this is the end…
Relax Sweetheart; It's just a Bend, not the End!

Transform Obstacles

Transform Obstacles

Is life an obstacle course? Sometimes it may feel like it. If you join the military you will be sent around an obstacle course of increasing degrees of difficulty. Why? To increase your strength and stamina and expand your creative capacity under strain.
So it is on the course called 'life' - you can choose to perceive people, situations or events as obstacles, or you can choose to use these things to strengthen and expand your capacity to be creative and to find ways round, under, over.
The choice lies in your perception. Obstacles are never ever 'out there', they are always in our own minds.

9 Annoying, Irritating, And Absolutely Unbearable Co-Worker Behaviors That You Deal With Every Day

Donny Downer: He sits a few open desks away from me, and I swear he sighs deeply *every* time he gets an email, as if the very task of working really cuts into his day. He also likes to mumble and use breathy exclamations like "Really?!" and "Maaaaaaaaan."
Humming. I had no idea how much people hum until this job.
Whistling. Dear God please make it stop...

2. Nail clipping

The nail clipping. Yes, nail clipping. I don't know if he had some sort of compulsion, or the fastest growing fingernails known to humankind, but everyday I would hear the inevitable *clip* *clip* *clip.* On a good day, clippings wouldn't fly onto my desk or into my hair. On a bad day..well...
I get hear my co-workers clip their finger nails . . . and toe nails (yuck). I have had someone change their clothes in the cubicle behind me even though we have a secure quiet room.
About once a week, I have to DUCK because my co-worker (who sits approximately 6 feet away from me) decides it's perfectly normal to CLIP HIS FINGERNAILS at his cubicle. I can hear the little nail-bits ricocheting off of various surfaces around our work-space...

3. Eating Smelly Food, And Smelling In General

The disgusting scent of fish at lunch time. We still haven't been able to figure out who the culprit is but I hate them.
The smells in my area are really bad. We have smokers, curry eaters, and nasty farts.
The oppressive smell of the food they eat, almost always something unhealthy.The noise and smell of their various bodily functions.

4. Being A Noisy Eater

Loudly chewing potato chips. Shaking their salad containers for 5 minutes to distribute the dressing.
It is amazing to me how loudly some people eat. Chewing with your mouth open is obvious, but it drives me nuts to be able to to hear someone chew or swallow or slurp.

5. Talking—on the phone, to co-workers, to anyone.

There is a co-worker who knows she is a loud talker. She's admits it yet has no inclination to try and control the volume of her voice. She also strikes her desk for emphasis when she's feeling strongly about something. It is like a monster movie where you look at your cup of water it is rippling to signal danger.
Twiddle-Dee-Know-It and Twiddle-Dee-All: These two sit in desks next to each other. They know all the latest breaking news from TMZ to Huffington Post. Sometimes they share their knowledge with the whole room intentionally, but mostly they just talk among themselves—with megaphones, apparently.
The woman next to me who thinks it's ok to ask questions all day via gchat then poke me on the arm when I don't respond, then rolls her eyes when I have a question.
Talking to significant others on the phone. Scheduling doctor appointments on the phone. Fighting with their kids on the phone. Checking voice messages on speakerphone.

6. Playing Music Softly In The Office, Or Blasting It Way To Loud In Headphones

There's always this guy that pushes our policy to bring your own headphones to its limit by listening heavy metal at max volume. Since he's technically complying to the rules, so he's free to ignore us when we say anything about it.
Headphones with music turned up so load I can hear it, all of it, and end up singing along because I can't concentrate anyway.
Someone has music blaring from headphones so loud I can hear it across the room.

7. Not Doing Work

Trying to work while a five-person Call of Duty battle is underway behind you, trying to research as your co-workers discuss the latest developments in their friends' romantic entanglements, being forced to listen to your coworkers' gossip/crushes/rants when you just want to finish work and go home.
Colleagues cue up videos on YouTube and turn their laptop around to let you watch, too, as you're trying to get some work done or meet a deadline. Close cousin of the YouTube clip is music — office-wide exposure of crap music.
Bros talking about deadlifts while clipping their toenails, throwing balls over cube spaces, dart tournaments between cube hallways and explaining the nuances of Walter White in a volume three times louder than the sound of keyboard typing, air conditioner fans and 6 phones ringing at the same time.

8. Desk Pit Stops

It is too common for people to stop by my desk through out the day to talk about absolutely NOTHING.
Impromptu meetings right next to my cubicle. They block the walking areas and force everyone around to pretend they're not listening. It's rude. Additionally, an open-office environment somehow convinces people that any desk that doesn't have someone sitting in it right then is up for grabs. How many times have I walked in to find someone making themselves at home at my desk?

9. Screen Spying

People walk by my desk all day on their way to the printer and they look at my computer screen on the way there. I like to work without spying eyes
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~Gretchen Rubin, Author
Lately, I’ve been thinking about “decoy habits” (still pondering whether this is a good name). A decoy habit is a habit that a person claims to want to adopt—but really doesn’t intend to do. Often, decoy habits reflect other people’s values or priorities. “I want to cook dinner every night.” “I want to finish my Ph.D. thesis by the end of the year.” “I want to give up coffee.”
The decoy provides cover—we don’t have to acknowledge the habits that we actually follow, because there’s this other, better habit that we intend to adopt. As an Upholder, who takes all announced aims very seriously, I get very uneasy in the presence of a decoy habit.

I first noticed this type of decoy when I sat next to a man at a dinner party.
“I really should exercise,” he said in an unconvincing tone. He certainly looked like a person who should exercise. He was at least forty pounds overweight, and he looked puffy and uncomfortable. I said, “Why don’t you exercise?”
“I don’t have time, and I travel so much. It’s really not feasible for me. Also my knee bothers me.”
“It sounds like you actually don’t want to exercise,” I pointed out.
“Oh, I do,” he answered. “I need to do it. Periodically my wife and kids sit me down. I’m going to get started.” But he didn’t sound as though he meant it.

Decoy habits are harmful, I think, because they allow us to pretend to have certain aims or values that we don’t really have. Maybe we don’t want to admit what we really want to do, or maybe two values are in conflict. Ironically, I suspect that if my dinner partner had said, “I don’t intend to exercise,” and accepted the consequences of that habit, he might help convince himself that he should exercise. But by voicing the decoy, by saying, “I plan to start exercising,” he avoided acknowledging his true intentions.

As I said, I’m still pondering this idea. Does it strike a chord with you? Have you recognized this in yourself, or someone else?

Body Pain Linked With Emotional Stress

12 Types Of Pain That Are Directly Linked To Emotional States

According to Dr. Susan Babel , Psychologist:- Emotions do Affect Chronic Pain.
She says that chronic pain, beside physical injury, may be caused by stress and emotional issues. Let’s take a look at what pain in a particular area of your body indicates:

Headaches can be caused by stress life. If someone has chronic headaches she/he needs to grab some time for themselves on daily basis. Relaxing may help you to relieve your body from the head pain.

Neck pain implies the need to forgive. It may be to forgive yourself or to forgive some other person. It is very important to focus on things that you love about yourself or what others love in you.

Pain in the shoulders is sign that person carries a heavy emotional burden. Shoulders carry everything. To solve this problem share the load with friends or family.

Upper Back
Upper back pain manifests lack of emotional support. Probably the person is holding back feelings or doesn’t feel appreciated. Just talk about your feelings with your partner or close friend.

Lower Back
Pain in the lower back shows that person has financial worries. Sit down and focus on managing money.

Elbow and arm pain signifies a lack of flexibility. Try not to resist the natural changes in your life.

Pain in the hands may be caused by a lack of friends. Try to meet new people.

Fear of change, moving or waiting on a big decision can cause the hip pain. Make the changes step by step.

Pain in the knee is a sign of over high self-esteem unhappiness due to expectations.Maybe you should try to do some volunteering work and remember no one is perfect.

Calf pain is caused by stress, emotional tension or jealousy. Maybe it is time to let go the jealousy or any big stressor in your life.

Pain in the ankle means that you need more pleasure in your life. Try to enjoy the little things and every moment in your life.

Foot pain occurs if you fight with depression. Depression is a specific disease, but for a start try to find a new hobby.

This concept is scientifically proven so before adopting medicine or concern for the doctor, give some time and observe your thought heals you automatically

5 Ingredients To Success!

Five Ingredients To

4 Key Habits to Fight Job Fatigue

Sandy Stachowiak
Changing these four key habits may help you fight job fatigue and feel better

We all get overwhelmed with life from time to time. With jobs, fami lies, bills, and homes to take care of, it can all put a strain on anyone. But, if you are experiencing more irritability and impatience with co-workers along with less sleep and energy than normal, you could be headed towards job fatigue, also known as job burnout. What can you do to stop it? How can you avoid it?
There is no ultimate correct answer to either question and we are all different. However, there are several habits that you can implement or adjust that can certainly help.
1 Have an outlet, hobby, or activityThe ability to take your mind off your work is not an easy task for many. However, if you have a hobby or activity that you truly enjoy, this can help you do just that.

Have creative outlets. Burnout interferes with your ability to perform well, increases rigid thinking, and decreases your ability to think accurately, flexibly and creatively.Even if you aren't able to flex your creative muscles at work, having some type of creative outlet will keep you engaged and motivated.

Maybe you like to take photographs, play guitar, draw or paint, tackle craft projects, or screenplays.Using a creative hobby as shield against burnout is a wonderful suggestion. But if reading the latest best-selling novel or playing the most recent video game is more your cup of tea, then go for it. The key is not necessary what you do -it is that you just do it.
2 Disconnect from technologyDid you get addicted to technology even before you realized it? Now “it“ follows you everywhere.

Before cell phones were part of daily life, taking your work home with you was not so simple. You had to grab all your files, pack up your briefcase, and then haul it all home to the kitchen table. But now, with laptops, tablets and cell phones, we can access what we need digitally from pretty much anywhere. This makes it much easier to bring that work home, which is not always a good idea.

Taking the time to relax and unwind at the end of the day is crucial. And, disconnecting from technology when you do so will certainly help. Set aside some time to do this, even if it is just for a few minutes.

Take breaks from electronic devices. Do this at predetermined intervals so that you are not “always on.“

Maybe, start small by going on a “phone fast.“ Leave it behind the next time you go for a walk.
3 Get enough exercise and restWe all know that the appropriate amount of rest each night as well as regular fitness activities can keep us healthier. If you are staying up too late or avoiding that brisk walk, get back into the habit. These two activities can help you better handle stress.

Regular physical activity can help you to better deal with stress. It can also help you get your mind off work and focus on something else.

Sleeps restores well-being and helps protect your health. Aim for at least 7­8 hours each night.

Keeping your mind and your body fit are not only good for your physical health, but your mental well-being too.
4 Be social or talk it outDo you make time to hang out with friends? Do you talk to those close to you about what is on your mind?
Positive relationships with coworkers, appreciating time with your partner, and having fun with friends, can all assist you in handling the stress triggers in your life.And many times, talking to a close friend or family member can help you relax.

Social contact is nature's antidote to stress: Since the face and heart are wired together in the brain, talking face to face with a good listener can help to quickly calm your nervous system and relieve stress.

Making sure that you take time to be social does not have to be difficult. Just promise not to discuss your job. Being social not only helps your emotional well-being, but lets you have some fun with people you like at the same time.

To get started: Try a weekly date with your spouse, a regular social event with friends, or an after-work bite to eat with co-workers. Go back to the new habits above this and take advantage of a hobby class or a gym.

This article first appeared in

Negotiation for Project Managers

Negotiation is defined as "a discussion aimed at reaching an agreement" (Oxford). An elegant and simple definition encompassing yet a powerful and sometimes hard to master skill, especially for project managers (PMs). Here's why:
Projects involve change. Many parties interact during a project lifecycle including stakeholders, users and delivery team. Sponsors empower PMs to deliver, however, it should be no surprise to PMs that conflicts arise in projects due to many sources including matrix organisations, conflicting priorities, expectations gap and scope creep. Without an effective way to solve conflicts in a timely manner, projects can quickly come to a standstill and may even fail.
The good news is that by mastering and applying these negotiation skills in day-to-day activities, PMs can ensure progress through even the most difficult of conflicts. Read on to take a look at how to apply negotiation skills effectively from a PM's perspective.
What is negotiation for PMs?
Negotiation in projects is about finding timely solutions to conflicts that arise between people linked to the project and/or impact it in some way. Negotiation is a highly effective interpersonal skill that PMs must master to move projects progressively. Finding an 'agreed' solution that either:
  • Benefits all parties – means everyone got, or at least feels they got, what they were after from negotiations. A solution acceptable to all is usually the one that builds great teams and enjoys best support afterwards
  • Benefits some of the parties or one only – means someone had to compromise (take one for the team) probably for the greater good of the project
  • Just escalates the conflict to next level in project governance since the negotiations could not reach any agreement
An agreed solution that benefits all parties is also often called a 'win-win' scenario and is the most desirable outcome PMs want from their project negotiations.
Why do PMs negotiate
Temporary endeavors to achieve something unique, projects typically require some form of 'agreement' from time to time between those delivering change and those who will use or benefit from it in future (like users, stakeholders and outside world). To name a few:
  • Requirements, scope and resources agreed during Planning & Initiation
  • Deliverables and milestones accepted during Delivery & Implementation
  • Changes to scope controlled and agreed during Monitoring & Control
  • Sign-offs and project handover at Closing
Who do PMs negotiate with
For PMs, formal and/or informal negotiations happens everyday. With project's success as focus all the time – PMs are always negotiating solutions. Engage these groups throughout the lifecycle of the project and negotiate timely solutions to any conflicts that risk your project:
  • Users (requirements management) – negotiate project requirements with users (or their representatives) to finalise scope. Being the end beneficiary of what your project will deliver, effective negotiations with users help set right expectations from start and will make acceptance, handover and closing smooth.
  • Suppliers and vendors (contract management) – formal negotiations to select best supplier/vendor for delivery and after a contract is awarded, negotiations continue in matters of contractual compliance, performance and any changes needed. It is best for PMs to seek specialist support from Legal and Procurement during these negotiations.
  • Team members (and their managers) – your project team is the centre of it all, moving the team together as one unit requires regular internal sync ups, prioritisation calls and agreements on the implementation strategies. Negotiations here are very informal but lead to highly effective collaborative work. As PM, you should also expect to negotiate with line managers of the project team in a matrix environment.
  • Stakeholders (stakeholder management) – negotiate project scope, time, cost and quality with stakeholders as well as seek their buy-in on scope changes, risk mitigations, contingency funds (if needed) and commitments on organisational resources for the project. Honest and open communications here are necessary to manage stakeholder expectations.
How to negotiate
Now we get into the mechanics of how should PMs negotiate in a typical project setting. Project negotiations could be segregated into following distinct phases:

Let's see what happens within each:
  • Plan: Plan for negotiations ahead – do your homework. Gather background information on the topic, set targets, know your tolerances around the targets.
  • Discuss: That's where the actual negotiations start. PMs lead the discussion – keep them from digressing off topic. Open negotiations by setting the scene – introduce key issues to discuss. Remember to listen, paraphrase key points to ensure common understanding and keep driving the discussions forward.
  • Propose: Brainstorm, propose solutions and listen to solutions being proposed. Focus on reaching agreements. Communicate clearly and openly.
  • Bargain: Be prepared to trade-offs and give & take. Show flexibility to reach a plausible agreement. Your homework of knowing your tolerances will pay off here.
  • Agree: Reaching an agreeable solution is the real goal. Be mindful of the fact that the agreement could be one of many types explained above. In all cases, ensure you get it in-writing/signed-off from participants. Summarise conclusions for all and later distribute minutes appropriately.
  • Review: Following up on the resolution of agreement is essential. Ensure all parties are kept informed of next steps taken. Update any impacted project documents.
By now you should have a good sense of how important negotiation skills are for the successful delivery of projects. Effective negotiations could literally turn people in opposition of the change your project delivers to its biggest supporters. They could be the missing link to get those stumbling blocks out of your project's way to success. Take time to prepare well for your negotiations, be reasonable and respectful, listen to others' views and remain focused and calm all the time. A proven ability and a track record to reach 'win-win' solutions – of which there are sometimes many in difficult situations – is a hard sought after skill in Project Managers. I hope these thoughts will help you master this skill.
I leave you with a question: Have you faced a situation where it was difficult to make everyone happy, but yet, you were able to carve out a 'win-win' scenario? Reiterating points of common benefit could sometimes help people let go a little to reach an agreement – please share your thoughts. Cheers.
Some information here is sourced from articles in Association of Project Management.
Rana Ali Saeed – Rana is a Project Manager and Technology Solutions professional, having served clients in IT, telecommunications and academia sectors for past thirteen years. These years have probably experienced the fastest wave of technological change. The explosion of digital data touched almost every industry and the demand of data speeds grew exponentially. Telcos evolved from 2G to 5G and smartphones became a commodity from once a luxury. Having ridden this wave of change, Rana has a passion for taking on new challenges. He is enthusiastic about Data Science (analytics, visualization, presentation) and currently spends his leisure time as a student of Machine Learning, Deep Learning and Inferential Statistics.

Humor: Two difficult things to achieve!

1. To plant your ideas in someone else's head.
2. To put someone else's money in your own pocket.

The one who succeeds in the first one is called a TEACHER.
And the second is called a BUSINESSMAN.
The one who succeeds in both is called a WIFE
The one who fails in both is called a HUSBAND!