Multi-millionaire Mo Gawdat was a top Google executive. He lived in a huge house. He fathered two beautiful children. He was incredibly ...
Multi-millionaire Mo Gawdat was a top Google executive. He lived in a
huge house. He fathered two beautiful
children. He was incredibly wealthy. Once he purchased a vintage Rolls-Royce at
the drop of a hat.
People thought he had the perfect life, but Mo was as
miserable as sin.
Mo believed happiness could be captured in a computer
code. He wanted to develop an algorithm which could bring complete happiness.
Together with his son Ali, they created a formula. Mo
thought it nailed the art of happiness. And then something terrible happened.
Ali was rushed to the hospital for a routine appendix removal. A needle
punctured a major artery by mistake. His 21-year-old son’s organs were failing
one by one. The time had come to say goodbye. Mo and his wife kissed Ali’s
forehead and left the hospital. Grief overwhelmed them.
Mo blamed the doctors for his son’s death, and he blamed
himself. His wife told him blaming other people would not bring Ali back. This
struck a chord with Mo.
He began to look at Ali’s death in a different light. He
heard his son’s voice in his head saying, “I’ve already died, Papa. There is
nothing you can do to change that, so make the best of it.” Whenever Mo’s mind
drifted toward negativity, he would ask what would Ali say in this situation.
In the wake of Ali’s death, his father remembered the
happiness formula his son had helped him create.
H ≥ e – E.
Happiness is greater than or equal
to the events of life, minus the expectations of
life.
He realized that his striving for material things wasn’t
making him happy. And his expectations for the way he thought life should be
also weren’t making him happy.
Mo says, “I’ve changed my expectations. Rather than
thinking that my son should never have died, I choose to be grateful for the
times we had.”
Mo now believes that happiness isn’t something we should
strive for. It’s about enjoying the present moment and being content with what
we’ve got as opposed to what we want.