By Junaid Tahir
The parents now a days are quite worried about the behavioral changes in their children due to several socio-economical reasons. The gap between parents and us, the youth, is increasing day by day due to which the family bonding is getting weaker and weaker. We, the youth, want liberty in every deed we do. We want our parents not to be disturb us in what-ever we do in what-so-ever manner. We have forgotten the amount of time our parents have invested in for our brought up. We have forgotten the countless efforts and sacrifices by our parents throughout our lives. 

Starting from our birth they have taken care of our food (22 years * 365 days * 3 times = 24000 times!), our clothes (daily washing, ironing, new purchasing), our education (daily home works, uniform, school/tuition fee), religious & moral teaching every day (THE REAL GREAT JOB), computer & toys purchasing and God knows how many other countless efforts they have put in to make us a complete human being to survive in this world. Indeed, all those efforts cannot be covered in this article but the overall emphasis is that its our moral and religious mandatory responsibility to take care of them now.
Below are some small acts of kindness which I request you to consider to show your affection with them and to take care of them:

  1. Give them enough money so that they don't have to ask you.
  2. Share funny and entertaining things with them to make them laugh or smile.
  3. Don't speak loudly. Speak slowly, nicely and softly.
  4. Do not walk in front of them in market or anywhere. They might walk slow being old; stay behind them. Give them respect.
  5. Ask for small tasks again and again. For example, "Abou Jee, do you need water? Should i bring tea for you? Are you hungry, baba" etc 
  6. Closely monitor thier health. visit doctor if required. Have them thorougly checked time to time.
  7. Take care of their medicines. Set reminders on your phone for their medicines and serve them on time.
  8. Take them to the mosque. Walk slowly. Follow their pace.
  9. Take them to the park for walk. If not possible daily, then take them on weekend.
  10. Do not call them by their name. Call them with respect.
  11. Open the door for them with respect
  12. Adapt yourself according to their schedule not vise versa.
  13. Do shopping for them (buy their clothes, shoes, small items like tooth paste).  Buy your mother a nice coffee cup. Take them to market and buy them according to their likings. Buy your parents some nice books; usually people love to read books in old age.
  14. When you come back to home, visit them first in their room.
  15. Respect their social circle and let them enjoy with their friends.  Article written by Junaid.Tahir
  16. In case of conflict on any issue, try to follow them as much as possible. Remember, they have been sacrificing their money and time in raising you for years and years. Its time to pay back. They have been showing all the patience during your childhood. Its time for you to be patient.
  17. Keep them with you instead of sending them to old houses etc. This will be a big act of ignorance if you do.
  18. When starting the food, serve them first.
In the end, I would recommend making a check list of this email and and paste it on any wall in your room or kitchen and read it often to remember
Please do share if you are doing any other good thing for making your parents feel great :)

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About Author: Junaid Tahir, a telecom engineer and a blogger, writes articles on wisdom, happiness and stress management at his personal blog. His personal Google Group can be joined here. He is reachable at for any kind of suggestions and comments.

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  1. yes the values which u have mentioned are correct, but do to time the childrens are not sparking time with them, in this busy world.

  2. all u said 100 % true..but the parents who r suffering ought to have taught children to prevent their own problems as well. these days parents are devoting time and energy for curriculau (non-spiritual) development of kids so as to make them good + successful professionals ,,NEVER GOOD HUMAN BEINGS,

    1. That's the unfortunate fact you have mentioned and I agree to that fully. However, the purpose of this article to advise the youth to do good with their parents regardless of their current financial status, position, situation and circumstance. I personally feel that being nice to parents is not a 'give and take' thing. Even if parents might lack in developing their children as great human beings, we can not deny their countless efforts for raising us alone!

  3. I am fully agreed with all my friends comments here, i do endorse that we should take a very special care ofthem,now we hold or reach to percetigous positions in this competetative enviournment due to their contious efforts,bear a lot of expences for our better upbringing,we never ever pay back them by any mean except we should what we can do best for them eveytime and pray May ALLAH give them good health & long life too.


  4. The basic guidelines of parental care and attachment of love. Its really moving to read them and surely youngster too will appreciate and love to follow the advise. But the problem now, is that they will forget when they leave the monitor . May the Almighty Guide them on the correct path, and the path Prophet Muhamed sal. has shown us.