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Advice: Photocopy your cards

Photocopy the content of your wallet and save time later! Place the contents of your wallet on a photocopy machine. Do both sides of each license, bank cards, health cards etc., so you will know what you had in your wallet and all of the account numbers and phone numbers to call to cancel. Keep the photocopy in a safe place. We've all heard horror stories about fraud that's committed using your name, address, SS#, credit, etc. To limit the damage in case this happens to you or someone you know. As everyone always advises, cancel your credit cards immediately, but the key is having the toll free numbers and your card numbers handy so you know whom to call. Keep those where you can find them easily. File a police report immediately in the jurisdiction where it was stolen.

Reasons for Negative Thoughts - How to Avoid


I have noticed in my 33 years of life that human mind tends to think negative more as compared to positive. There are several contributing factors for negative thinking such as, bad official or personal circumstance, financial issues , medical problems and/or family bonding. In this article I am going to touch some of issues which lead human mind towards negativity, consequently killing the peace of mind.

 

Personal Circumstances: Once I read somewhere that life is what 20% happens to you and 80% how you react to it. Its true; believe me. Its only our own thinking & reactions responsible for our peace of mind. No matter what are the circumstances, there is always a way out. My personal approach to fix the BIG issues is to break the BIG issue into several smaller issues and start fixing one by one; one at a time. Always remember that keep thinking negative on issues will keep increasing the weight of the problems. It's just like holding the glass of water for one minute compared to holding this for one hour. If you hold a glass for one hour, your shoulder and arm will start paining. This is how your negative thoughts kills your brain and takes away your peace of mind.

 

Misunderstanding: there is a quote: "I am responsible for what I said but not responsible for what you understood". I personally agree with this however I would like to add that the responsibility falls on both, the speaker and the listener . The speaker is to make sure that he has elaborated his point very well by using right words and proper details. The Listener is to make sure that he understands things correctly. In case of ambiguity, he needs to ask again, even again if something is unclear else there is a serious chance that a negative thing is going to be concluded. Clarity in our day to day communication can definitely wash away the element of misunderstanding. So I stop this paragraph with famous quote "Seek first to understand and then to be understood"

 

Financial Limitations: Life is beautiful, we make it tough by putting a lot of weight by adding more and more wishes into it. I would suggest always try to differentiate between Needs and Wants. Try to live in your needs and you won't be sad again. Another advice would be to think of less-fortunate people quite often instead of always dreaming about rich people. If you want to become rich, start working on it by preparing a concrete plan, however don't let this plan & actions to steal your peace of mind. Don't allow your brain to adopt short cuts which are based on negative strategies. Negative approaches result in negative outcomes; sooner or later so be positive and adopt positive approaches.

 

Family Relations: Having healthy family relations is a real blessing. This is something you can find hundreds of books in the market or on internet. However, I must say that each one of us must learn the tips and techniques to have healthy family relationships. A straight forward approach to resolve small conflicts is to 'Convince or Get Convinced'. There shouldn't be anything in between. For the bigger issues, the suggestion is to break the problem in small issues and fix it one by one, as stated earlier.

Further, we must develop the power of patience in ourselves. Patience also means listening other empathetically and understand other's point of view. This helps conclude right things.

 

Office Stress: I have developed my own formula to manage office stress in order to reduce/fix the negative thoughts and stress. The formulae is that for any given situation apply two filters to the problem. First filter is to ask yourself whether  this issue is really something I should be worried about. If not, just drop and you are done. Second filter is that can I "Park" this problem for sometime so I can concentrate on other things and use my healthy brain for other positive things. 'Parking' has some advantages… for example, you are controlling your mind not to think of this particular issue for the time being and hence avoiding negativity and stress. Sometimes the issues are resolved at their own as we move along. However, if any issue really needs to be fixed then we should develop the power of analyzing the situation at Work Break Down level so that we can fix all small issues which are the root cause of the original issue.   

Article written by Junaid Tahir (mjunaidtahir -at- gmail.com). Feel free to share your feedback.

 

 

Conclusion: No one is in charge of your happiness except you so control your thoughts since thoughts are the driving force for your actions which are defining your character and character is the most important ingredient of your destiny.

Article written by Junaid Tahir (mjunaidtahir -at- gmail.com). Feel free to share your feedback


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Story: Stress Management


A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked, "How heavy is this glass of water?" Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g. The lecturer replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an ambulance. In each case, it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."

He continued, "And that's the way it is with stress management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on. " "As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden." "So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down. Don't carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow. Whatever burdens you're carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can."

So, my friend, why not take a while to just simply RELAX. Put down anything that may be a burden to you right now. Don't pick it up again until after you've rested a while. Life is short. Enjoy it! 

Power of Purple Fruits

The blue, purple and indigo foods are great for their anti-aging properties. 
These foods have tons of antioxidants, which are called anthocyanins and phenolics. 
They help improve circulation and prevent blood clots, so they are great for the heart
 and can help prevent heart disease. They are also known to help memory function 
and urinary tract health and to reduce free radical damage. 

M Junaid Tahir

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Story: The Cute Student Counts the Apples


A teacher teaching Maths to seven-year-old Laiq asked him, "If I give you one apple and one apple and one apple, how many apples will you have?"Within a few seconds Laiq replied confidently, "Four!"
The dismayed teacher was expecting an effortless correct answer (three).  She was disappointed.  "Maybe the child did not listen properly," she thought.  She repeated, "Laiq, listen carefully.  If I give you one apple and one apple and one apple, how many apples will you have?"
Laiq had seen the disappointment on his teacher's face.  He calculated again on his fingers.  But within him he was also searching for the answer that will make the teacher happy.  His search for the answer was not for the correct one, but the one that will make his teacher happy.  This time hesitatingly he replied, "Four…"
The disappointment stayed on the teacher's face.  She remembered that Laiq liked strawberries.  She thought maybe he doesn't like apples and that is making him loose focus.  This time with an exaggerated excitement and twinkling in her eyes she asked, "If I give you one strawberry and one strawberry and one strawberry, then how many you will have?"
Seeing the teacher happy, young Laiq calculated on his fingers again.  There was no pressure on him, but a little on the teacher.  She wanted her new approach to succeed.  With a hesitating smile young Laiq enquired, "Three?"
The teacher now had a victorious smile.  Her approach had succeeded.  She wanted to congratulate herself.  But one last thing remained.  Once again she asked him, "Now if I give you one apple and one apple and one more apple how many will you have?"
Promptly Laiq answered, "Four!"
The teacher was aghast.  "How Laiq, how?" she demanded in a little stern and irritated voice.
In a voice that was low and hesitating young Laiq replied, "Because I already have one apple in my bag."
"When someone gives you an answer that is different from what you expect don't think they are wrong.  There maybe an angle that you have not understood at all. You will have to listen and understand, but never listen with a predetermined notion."


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World’s most expensive cupcake goes on sale in Dubai - Emirates 24/7

Wanna bite of world's most expensive cupcake in Dubai?

The Golden Phoenix, only available at Bloomsbury's at The Dubai Mall, is valued at Dh3,700 ($1,010)

The world's most expensive 'edible' cupcake has gone on sale at the newly launched Bloomsbury's outlet at The Dubai Mall.
The 'masterpiece' cupcake, named The Golden Phoenix, is only available at The Dubai Mall outlet of the boutique café and is valued at $1,010 (Dh3,700) and presented on a 24-carat gold Empire Morning Cake Stand with Cloch by Villari.
The concept of Bloomsbury's was created by Shafeena Yusuff Ali, daughter of Yusuff Ali MA, Chairman of the EMKE group, which also owns and operated the Lulu chain of hypermarkets and supermarkets in the Gulf region.
The Dubai Mall outlet of the café officially opened on June 28, 2012, marking the one-year anniversary of Bloomsbury's, which first opened its doors to food lovers last year in Abu Dhabi.
According to the media statement issued by the café, the unveiling of The Golden Phoenix presentation on Thursday evening exceeded Dh100,000 ($28,000).
Curiosity about the world's most expensive 'edible' cupcake started at the beginning of June when Shafeena Yusuff Ali announced that she wanted to attempt the daring task.
She apparently spent weeks perfecting the taste of the recipe and decor of the cupcake and finalised the top five most expensive, tasteful ingredients.
 •         Flour - Doves organic flour from the United Kingdom
 •         Butter - Rachels organic butter from the United Kingdom
 •         Chocolate - Premium Amedei Porcelena cocoa from Italy
 •         Vanilla Beans - Gold Ugandan high quality vanilla beans
 •         Edible Gold Sheet - 23 carat gold
Vinay Lall, General Manager of Tablez Food Company, said: "We are really excited to have unveiled the most expensive 'edible' cupcake in the world. We have seen people attempt the most expensive cupcakes before, however those cupcakes are not edible as they are incrusted with diamonds and other components."
Other brands under the Tablez Food Company include Peppermill (Dubai), De Thali (Abu Dhabi), Tanjara (Abu Dhabi) and soon to come a unique concept Chai Biscoot.

World's First Invisible Door Lock

VingCard introduces the world's first invisible door lock.
Monday, 2nd July 2012
Source : VingCard Elsafe
 

VingCard Elsafe announced the introduction of 'Essence by VingCard,' it takes minimalism to the extreme, eliminating all lock hardware on the door by encasing all electronic components inside the door itself and making security virtually invisible to hotel guests.

Although undetectable on the door exterior, Essence by VingCard integrates VingCard Elsafe's most advanced contactless locking solutions into the interior electronics, including Radio Frequency Identification (RFID) and Near Field Communication (NFC) compatible locking technologies.

Essence by VingCard was unveiled at HITEC 2012, the world's largest hospitality technology show, June 25th–28th at the Baltimore Convention Center.

4Hoteliers Image Library"Essence by VingCard represents another giant leap forward in hotel design and technology," said Tim Shea, president of ASSA ABLOY Hospitality.

"It not only makes the lock disappear from the hotel door, resolving design challenges for savvy, design-conscious hoteliers, but it also minimizes a variety of other operational issues, such as integration, installation and maintenance. It combines the very best aspects of design and security technology, and is just the type of innovation that the industry has come to expect from VingCard Elsafe."

Since the advent of electronic security, hotel door locks have presented a challenge to hotel design professionals, such as architects and interior designers, who are tasked with blending the lock hardware into the hotel décor. Even though lock manufacturers have made strides in recent years by minimizing the lock hardware and incorporating new technologies such as RFID and NFC, a visible card reader has remained on the door exterior, giving hotels a distinctly commercial feel in the hallway. Essence by VingCard eliminates that challenge, hiding the locking components from the user and allowing designers to align the guestroom doors with the current trend toward a more residential look in hotel design, while proving the ultimate in security technology.

"In addition to being the dream of hotel design professionals, Essence is also compatible with our patented wireless online VISIONLINE system," continued Shea. "This makes it essentially the most advanced and streamlined locking system on the market today, from both a design and operational standpoint. It is the pure essence of form and function, and we are proud to introduce this innovative concept to the industry."

4Hoteliers Image LibrarySince introducing the first world's first recodable lock in 1979, VingCard Elsafe, has continued to "Stay First" in the in the industry with the continuous development of forward-thinking security solutions. With the 2005 introduction of Signature by VingCard, a design-centric lock developed to meet the needs of designers, architects and hoteliers, and Signature RFID by VingCard, an operations-friendly, contactless electronic lock with NFC compatibility, VingCard Elsafe began a trend toward minimal hardware on the guestroom door.

In 2006, VingCard again revolutionized the industry with the introduction of VISIONLINE, a wireless RF-online system that has since been issued a U.S. Patent, based on its highly advanced and proprietary technology. Unlike traditional off-line standalone locks, VISIONLINE by VingCard uses RF-online communication to eliminate the need for hotel staff to travel to and from guestrooms to perform tasks such as reprogramming individual locks and identifying or changing low batteries.

It also eliminates the need for guests to return to the front desk in order to change a room or extend a stay, increasing guest convenience and satisfaction. Today the VISIONLINE system operates in more than 50,000 guest rooms worldwide, offering the most cost-effective solution for hotel properties to facilitate reliable, two-way wireless online communication from standalone electronic door locks to their host security and PMS systems.

VingCard Elsafe is the world leader in developing locking systems, electronic in-room safes and energy management solutions for the hospitality industry, offering user-friendly systems that meet the unique operational needs of hotels and resorts.
For more information, please visit
www.vingcardelsafe.com

Spreading False Information



By Junaid Tahir

What makes me sad when I see people gossiping negatively and backbiting, and pulling other's legs. It even hurts when they give extreme remarks about someone's character. Sometimes they give comments about someone with whom they haven't even worked closely. Such people posses a  polluted thought process and when they do gossips they pollute the brains around them. They spread negativity and false information most of the time. I wonder why they have such a weak criteria of judging others and they have such a lose tongue which does the character assassination all day long. My question to such people is that do they have the courage to say the same remarks in front of the person? If not, then most likely their perception and their judgment is on false grounds so they should abstain from such garbage talks and negative criticism.

As a matter of fact, if you are negative, you are spreading negativity too. On the contrary if you are an all-positive personality you are generating the ripples of peace and happiness in society. Hence I urge you not to waste your precious energies and time on gossips, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energies in the positive present moment and do constructive activities and act like a responsible professional, a dutiful citizen and a nice family member J

Junaid Tahir, a telecom engineer and a blogger, writes articles on wisdom, happiness and stress management at his personal blog. His personal Google Group can be joined here. He is reachable at mjunaidtahir@gmail.com for any kind of suggestions and comments

Relationships advice: Avoid Debates

If you know that you and your mate have proven differences in opinion on certain subjects, avoid those subjects.
As an example, if you are a Republican and your mate is a Democrat, politics should probably be avoided. As the two of you identify new topics that could cause a debate session, stop the conversation before it even gets started. This is just one example; there can be other subjects which can generate heat leading towards brawls and tension so the concept is to stay away from such subjects :)

Relationships Advice: Realistic Expectations

No matter how wonderful and flawless your mate seems, no one is perfect. Be careful about putting someone on a pedestal, especially in the early stages of your relationship. Make sure that the expectations you have for your mate and yourself are realistic. There are going to be differences in opinion, and probably some disagreements. Also, do not assume that your mate knows how you feel or what you think about something. When discussing something important to you, ensure that you both understand the same thing. The reality is that neither one of you is going to know exactly what the other one needs. As long as you do not expect them to read your mind and accept that this is a part of getting to know one another and communicating, you will be fine.

Compromozing on Ethical Values?


Ethical values are the treasure of each individual regardless of his/her financial wealth. However these values are put on stake by pushing someone for specific immoral goals achievements. In this article, I shall cover the aspects which are to be considered while trapped in such circumstances. The article covers both professional and personal aspects.

 

First of all you need to ask yourself following questions in order to have thorough analysis of the situation:

1-    Who is getting benefit out of it?

2-   Why you (and only you) are being asked/pushed to compromise?

3-   What are the short term & long term personal consequences if you compromise?

4-   What are the risks/impacts on the project/task if you compromise?

5-   What will happen if you don't compromise?  

6-   Can I consult some other person for advice?

7-   Can I share the risks with other by involving other personnel/department on this task?

8-   What does the company policy say? Are my actions in-line with Job Descriptions?

 

Now that you have analyzed the situation, here are the guidelines which you need to consider for corrective and preventive actions:

 

1-    Sometimes the matter is not really an ethical issue, it's just a difference of opinion so carefully understand on what you are being asked for. Sometimes you are doing a healthy compromise in the best interest of all stake holders (off course within your ethical values and in line with company policies)

2-   If the matter is really critical, consider approaching the Fraud Management Team of your company. In some of the mature companies 'whistle blowing' or 'anonymous reporting' systems are set in place.

3-   Seeking advice from your colleagues/close friends broadens your horizon and expose you to more options for consideration. Be careful whom you consider to seek advice. Ask the one who is honest and fair with you and would keep the secret in the long run.

4-   Discuss the matter with your manager and document it, if possible. Make records for what you do, there is surely someone to ask later.  

5-   Define your principles to others quite often and show it time to time so that people know what type of person you are and what your ethical boundaries are.  This is required to portray the characteristics of your personality so that others can develop a mental picture of you in their heads.  This will prevent them approaching you for the wrong deeds.

6-   Not every ethical issue is to be taken too much seriously, consequently, allowing it to steal your peace of mind. Every problem has several solutions. Keep it cool, stay mentally healthy, analyze the situation based on 8 points mentioned earlier in the post and then do the right act.

7-   Sometimes a simple "No" helps. Just say so and put a full stop to the matter. Sometimes this is the most effective tool to use.

 

Muslim's approach to handle:

On top of the already explained aspects, a Muslim needs to understand the following as well:

1-    Have faith in Allah and do what your religion expects from you to do. Once done, leave it to Allah and He will turn the table for you. He is suffice for all your problems provided you have done the 'right'

2-   Seek wisdom from Allah. Pray for the right path and He will guide you.

3-   Whatever single deed you are doing is being recorded. You are answerable for what you have been doing during your life cycle. Good deeds result in good outcome not only in this world but also on the Day of Judgment; bad deeds bad results, here and hereafter! Be Honest and be fair. Do your self-audit quite often, in line with Islamic Principles. Insha'Allah you won't regret for any of your deeds if done within Islamic boundaries.

4-   Don't analyze the situation on political grounds which might divert your attention from the right path. Remember, Islam comes first. You should consider this filter for All of your problems. Anything which passes from this filter is the right thing to do.

Conclusion: Ethical Values (such as Truth, Honesty, Fairness, Transparency and self discipline) are unique treasure which you possess. Don't lose them at any cost. Your values are defining your character which is leading you towards your destiny. Sine you don't want to be a failure at the end of the day, so you need to stick to the humanitarian principles because the ultimate fact remains the same; 'As you sow, so shall you reap'. A Study confirms that the people who possess high ethical values are more happy than those who are engaged in fraudulent acts even if former earn less than the deceitful people. If you would like to read the types of Wealth, please visit http://paradigmwisdom.blogspot.com/2012/01/what-is-real-wealth-how-to-acheive.html

Article Reference: 0011-mjunaidtahir-paradigm wisdom-09Feb12- Compromising on Ethical Values - what to do when trapped


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5 Simple Ways to Increase Your Intelligence


Your brain needs exercise just like a muscle. If you use it often and in the right ways, you will become a more skilled thinker and increase your ability to focus. Here are 5 simple techniques to exercise your brain.
 

Minimize Television Watching
-- Watching television doesn't use your mental capacity OR allow it to recharge. When you feel like relaxing, try reading a book instead. If you're too tired, listen to some music. When you're with your friends or family, leave the tube off and have a conversation.

Exercise -- Time spent exercising always leads to greater learning because it improves productivity during the time afterwards. Using your body clears your head and creates a wave of energy.

Read Challenging Books
-- If you want to improve your thinking and writing ability you should read books that make you focus. Reading a classic novel can change your view of the world and will make you think in more precise, elegant English.

Early to Bed, Early to Rise
-- Nothing makes it harder to concentrate than sleep deprivation. You'll be most rejuvenated if you go to bed early and don't sleep more than 8 hours.

Take Time to Reflect -- Spending some time alone in reflection gives you a chance organize your thoughts and prioritize your responsibilities. Afterwards, you'll have a better understanding of what's important and what isn't

12 Ways to Stay on Top of Stress


Posted by Gabrielle Reece


  1. Exercise. Amen for endorphins. Believe me, they've helped me many days with my perspective. If you have to work out, then go take a brisk walk and get that blood flowing. It isn't about working out to lose weight -- it's about being healthy and staying sane.
  2. Eat the real stuff. Crappy food (fast, processed, and loaded with sugar) doesn't help your chemical brain and body handle stress. Living food, real food, helps support your mind and body while it's trying to deal with the million things coming its way. Every time I reach for the chocolate, I'm looking to feel something from it. Don't get me wrong -- if it's just a little here and there because I enjoy the taste of it, great. But if I'm using it the minute I feel overwhelmed, then that's when that food is no longer OK to eat. It doesn't make the problem go away, and then I just feel bad about eating the food to pacify myself. Grab green food instead. Put things in your mouth that are going to support your immune function and keep you levelheaded.
  3. Notice. Try not to let the stress overtake you. Recognize the situations that cause the stress and notice them coming your way. You have a better shot at fending off the full effects of the stress when you can anticipate it.
  4. Get it off your chest. Talk to a friend or partner about the stress. Sometimes just getting it off your chest can help unload some of the burden. 
  5. Keep your sense of humor. If you do have the chance to talk about it, try to see the irony and humor in the wacky bits. I think someone is dead in the water once they lose their sense of humor.
  6. Stay grateful. My daughter has large lungs and verbal skills she likes to display. Just when I start to wishfully think about her being quiet, I remind myself to be grateful that she can talk to me at all. In almost all of our problems are boatloads of blessings. "Oh, I don't feel like going to the gym."  Well, Amen that you have the means and the health to even be able to wrestle with the idea of going to work out. Make a habit of saying thank you. You will notice the sunny spots a lot more often, and not just the gray skies and storms.
  7. Ask, "What's the hurry?"  Have some fun. We're always so busy going somewhere, we miss just enjoying the moment. If an opportunity comes your way to do something fun, take it.
  8. Take a deep breath. When you feel the stress getting to you, take a moment. Get away, even if it's just for an hour, to be with yourself and your thoughts. Some people like to take a walk, meditate, lock themselves away in a beautiful bath, or go to church. Find the peace and the silence.
  9. Keep it simple. Simplify where you can. Does Junior really need to be in 78 activities at the age of 5?  Do you have to go to every little party or gathering you're invited to?
  10. Turn of the TV. A lot of it is bad news anyway, and it robs us of hours that we could use to be getting other things done. Since everyone complains that they have no time, get some by unplugging from the tube.
  11. Sleep. If you're rested, you have a better shot at handling things. Not to mention, you may not stress out as easily if you have a chance to recover at night.
  12. Drink water. I have said it before: Americans consume 21 percent of their calories through liquid consumption. Hydrate with water. Help you entire system function better just by drinking enough water. Oh, and by the way, if you don't think that weight loss and proper hydration have a relationship, think again. Shift the paradigm on its side -- don't think about exercise and nutritional eating just as something you have to suffer through to get into those jeans. Instead, think of them as armor that will protect you in this crazy world, with all of the bazillion details you deal with every day.