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Sure Steps to a Brighter Life


By: Guy Finley

"In the long run, our attitude towards life's lessons - and the direction our life takes in life - are one and the same; show me someone who resists the Light of Life's correction in the course of his or her soul, and I will show you someone whose destiny is the darkness of total self-enclosure." 

Even though the Truth is never further away from us than our wish for its awakening and self-healing insight, there are distinct moments in life when it comes closer to us than others. Unfortunately, almost all of these important, potentially life-changing moments are entirely missed because what is wrong with us, our false nature, always sees Truth as an attacking enemy. Let me show you what I mean so that the next time Truth makes an unexpected appearance in your life you will recognize it for what it is -- a friendly and beneficial force that is on your side. Permitting the Truth to do what it is intended to do will permit you to be what you want to be -- which is happy. 

Never are the healing powers of the Truth so close by as when a crisis is at hand. A crisis always precedes any real inner-advancement because real spiritual growth is a process of removing self-blocking thoughts and feelings. The reason a crisis must precede each new level of authentic self-unity is that the crisis, whatever it may be, points out where we have been holding onto a particular belief, a shaky pretense, or some flattering but deceptive self-image that is in conflict with reality. Where there is conflict there is always pain; and by the time this unconscious kind of psychological or emotional pain reaches the level of our consciousness, we generally experience it as some kind of a crisis. This explains why a crisis is a close encounter of the truthful kind. The previously invisible internal conflict, which is always at the root of any personal crisis, is now temporarily visible. We can say this in another way. A crisis arises when some inner-lie we have unconsciously been telling ourselves is about to surface and be seen as a lie. Let's take an example or two. 

Maybe a man pictures himself as always being in control of his own life, but now he's suddenly aware that he can't stop drinking -- or talking -- or endlessly worrying. He has reached a turning point. 

A woman has always thought of herself as being loving and kind, but all at once she begins to notice how critical and cruel her thoughts are towards others. She sees she only does things for others to have them think of her as being kind, and this fills her day with resentments. She has reached a turning point. 

In both instances, where the terrible cost of living from lying but flattering self-images has suddenly become conscious, the only alternative that the false self has, as the author of these self-deceptive lies, is to start blaming everyone and everything for the unhappy circumstances. This system of self-subterfuge is almost fail-safe for the false self. By seeing to it that everything outside of it is constantly laid to blame, it keeps you fighting with life instead of learning from it. It is really very cunning. The more you take the side of defending what is wrong in you, the more the Truth that exposed the unconscious wrongness appears to be against you. 

The Truth never causes pain. The only pain in a crisis is the false self's resistance to the Truth. A crisis only becomes a breaking point when we fail to use it as a turning point. In order to transform a crisis into a personal turning point in your life, you must wish to be shown the lesson in the crisis rather than allow yourself to be convinced by it that the world is against you. This Higher Wish, followed by your willingness to endure a new kind of pain, gives birth to a Higher Consciousness in you that belongs to your True Nature. This Elevated Consciousness never has to solve a crisis because it never has one in the first place.

"In the long run, our attitude towards life's lessons - and the direction our life takes in life - are one and the same; show me someone who resists the Light of Life's correction in the course of his or her soul, and I will show you someone whose destiny is the darkness of total self-enclosure."

Guy Finley is the best-selling author of more than 20 books and tape albums on self-realization and higher success. His works, which have sold over a million copies worldwide and have been translated into twelve languages, are recommended by doctors, ministers, and industry leaders. For information about Guy Finley's books, booklets, tapes, and helpful on-going study groups call (541) 476-1200 or visit where you can also sign up to receive a free, weekly Key Lesson.

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Some tips for personal and professional life

1. Don't criticize, condemn or complain.

2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.

3. Arouse in the other person an eager want. 


Six ways to make people like you.


1. Become genuinely interested in other people.

2. Smile.

3. Remember that a person's name is to that person.

the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.

6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely. 


Win people to your way of thinking


1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.

2. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, 

"You're wrong."

3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.

4. Begin in a friendly way.

5. Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.

6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.

7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.

8. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.

9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.

10. Appeal to the nobler motives.

11. Dramatize your ideas.

12. Throw down a challenge. 



A leader's job often includes changing your people's 

attitudes and behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish this:


1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.

2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.

3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.

4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.

5. Let the other person save face.

6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."

7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.

8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.

9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.  

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Sugar coated person or a genuine human being?

While reading an article on blog the below lines caught my attention:
"Remember the next time you decide to give someone a chance whether it be for work or for friendship, go for the real thing and not the sugar-coated one"

These lines triggered some thoughts in my mind on what points to consider in differentiating between the genuine personality and sugar-coated human. Below are my suggestions:

  1. One or two observations are not enough to conclude. Take some time.
  2. Instead of observing actions, check the habits. Sometimes actions may not portray the genuine inner personality; however habits can predict the character. Because habits trigger repetitive actions which transform into the overall personality. 
  3. Sometimes sugar coating is not done because of specific evil benefits instead may be it is because of ethical causes. Don't think negative about such person; appreciate instead.
  4. Look for ethical characteristics such as honesty, truthfulness, friendliness, down-to-earth.
  5. Instead of using your eyes, use brain. Think logical and think carefully in concluding about someone.

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The Family Picnic and The Traffic Signal

By Junaid Tahir

The family picnic on last weekend was great as we had a lot of fun at beach park. It was equally tiring because of lot of physical activities such as cycling, running and games for 6 hours. Driving back, I was desperate to reach home as soon as possible to take deep sleep. The traffic signal next to my colony was red and being a longer duration of 3-4 minutes I was losing my patience. I had the option either to wait for the signal to turn green or to take a 100 meter small off track road (which was illegal) and reach home quickly. I decided to wait for the signal to turn green instead of traffic violation. Meanwhile I noticed that another car driver did exactly the same which I was about to do just seconds ago. As soon as he crossed the Yellow Road Side Lane to take the rough track, a police car (which was also in the waiting queue of signal) immediately approached the person and stopped him in the colony. The police fined him 500AED (13000 PKR or 7400 INR) for this traffic violation (I checked this value of traffic violation from Police website). I was thanking God for controlling myself from violation and ending up having a bad day L

This is what I learnt from this experience:
1-     Traffic laws must be followed strictly in all situations except for real emergency cases. Some countries like UAE have very tough rules for violations in order to ensure traffic safety and to maintain Law & Order situation.
2-    Do not consider any violations in life as small. You never know how big impact you might cause to someone because of your small mistake or error.
3-    Whenever you do a good or bad thing publicly, you generate a ripple effect in the society. For example, if you drive over speedily then youngsters who observe you on the road tend to follow you. If 5 youngsters follow you then another 10 youngsters will follow those 5 youngsters and then another 20 youngsters will follow those 10 youngsters and the ripple effect continues to grow. On the contrary, if you do good to someone, he will do good to more people and the ripple effect will grow. Hence a humble request is to generate the ripples of happiness, care and love and spread peace and tranquility and contentment in the world J
4-    Avoid short cuts in life else you will regret on what you did. Try to comply with the standard practices and procedures in life and set great examples for your followers.

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10 Most Common Regrets in Life

The life we live is the legacy we leave behind. Everyday counts for something, and every relationship has meaning. No one wants to live in mediocrity, with their dreams and aspirations deteriorating behind the fa├žade of a day to day rat race. At the end of life, many people express regrets, wishing for a second chance to get it right. In reality, there is no second chance; we have to get it right the first time. These are the top ten regrets most likely to change the course of someone's life.

1. Never Resolving a Conflict

The number one regret a person can have is not resolving a conflict. Countless funerals are full of regretful friends and family that never got the chance to right a wrong. Bitterness can sour a lifetime of memories, wedging itself in between relationships and people that love each other. Don't let anger last a lifetime.

2. Not Spending Enough Family Time

For many people sending their kids off to college, or watching them get married can conjure thoughts of times growing up as a young family. Often work can come in the way of family time, resulting in distance between husbands, wives and children. Inserting a family day into a weekly schedule and making time for family vacations each year can prevent a person from having such a strong regret.

3. Not Landing a Dream Job

Going to college for years and getting a degree leads a person to begin seeking work in the field of their dreams. However, often employers are not hiring in limited fields, leaving post grads to find work in other occupations. What starts out as temporary can become permanent, with salaries and benefits luring employees into a lifelong commitment to a single company. While the money may be great, a job can feel like a rut if it isn't the job you longed for.

4. Not Saving Enough Money

For many people in their twenties or thirties, retirement seems like a distant future, not an impending reality. They may choose to defer retirement savings into other purchases for immediate gratification. This can turn into a disaster during the golden years, when money can often be tight. This is an easy regret to avoid by setting up automated investments into an IRA throughout the working years.

5. Not Having Children

Children are often viewed as distractions or inconveniences, getting in the way of careers and personal goals. Though it may seem like a good idea to not have kids, the choice can leave a person very lonely as they begin to age. It is a natural human desire to wish to leave a heritage with descendents, so be careful in choosing to put off having children.

6. Never Taking up a Sport or Hobby

Countless little boys spend their youth community sports, dreaming of one day playing for a professional league. Though not everyone has what it takes to be a professional, there are other ways to incorporate a passion for sports or other hobbies such as learning to play an instrument, or taking on a second language.

7. Never Telling Someone You Love Them

There is nothing like going to the grave, remembering "the one that got away." Sometimes it can be hard to express true feelings for someone if the outcome could mean rejection. However, holding it all inside will leave heart aching for closure. It is better to share your heart with a loved one, rather than miss out on a chance at happiness.

8. Never Traveling

Growing up, most people dream of visiting an exotic island, backpacking through Europe, experiencing the Great Wall of China, or finding love in the city of Paris. Travel is a healthy ambition that creates memories to last a lifetime. Failing to travel to a dream destination can leave a lifetime of regrets. Don't let financial circumstances or life events keep you from visiting the places that you love.

9. Never Getting a Degree

A small percentage of people successfully graduate high school, go to college, and acquire the degree that they set out for. Life circumstances can get in the way, with some students quitting college to get married, have children or go to work, never returning to school. For people who take pride in education and intelligence, having a degree is proof of their capabilities and accomplishment. It is never too late to go back to school and get the degree you always wanted.

10. Never Buying the dream home

Everyone has an idea of the perfect home in the perfect location. Maybe it's a luxurious Manhattan apartment full of chic and modern furnishings. Or perhaps it's a three story beach house overlooking the Pacific with a mountainous backdrop and scenic views. Settling for a suburban track home may be less than the expectations of an average American. One of the biggest regrets a person can have is not raising a family in the dream location they once desired

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Story: Manage your appearance

A famous scholar was delivering the lecture to some people. He had pain in his knee joints so he was sitting on a chair as his audience was aware of this knee pain. After sometime a person in a nice suit and overall decent looking personality came and asked to join. The scholar didn't find it appropriate to continue delivering the lecture in sitting position so he stood up and continued his lecture. Though he had pain in the knees but he was patient thinking that the recently joined person is a noble, wise and educated personality.
After a few moments, the person interrupted the scholar and asked, what is the time to take breakfast? The scholar wasn't expecting this stupid question so he politely said, you can take any time in the morning you wake up. The person said, what if I wake up at 2 o'clock. The scholar thought that it's time to sit on the chair again because his perception about the person was no more the same as it was some minutes ago :)

The concept here is that your first looks matter a lot. The people you meet usually make the perception about your personality up to a degree of 70%. Although this story ended up as a disaster for the scholar however had this been the case that newly joined person didn't speak, he would have made a great impression on the whole class !
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However, making a good impression doesn't mean that you have to be in a costly tuxedo or a high end car; you can still make a good impression by being decent and simple. A neat appearance, a politely started conversation, a strong hand shake, a humble voice and a warm good-bye will increase your respect a lot regardless of your financial situation, your education level and your professional or business position.  Remember the fact that human psychology, most of the time, follows the standard mental paradigms and common sense logics; which simply means that a good appearance will make a good impression. If you understand this basic concept, you can make a great deal out of it in your day to day life.

Having said that life is not about first impressions only. You need to meet same people again and again which means you need to have long term impression on others which requires you to demonstrate strong personality traits. This primarily involves your communication skills, your emotional and empathic skills and  consistent behavior.

Always remember that your character is your real wealth and you must endeavor to improve this in every single aspect of your life. Below are some recommended articles in this context:

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4 Arguments

The following is an overview of the meaning of each of The Four Agreements, based on the writings of don Miguel Ruiz.

Be Impeccable with Your Word

Speak with integrity.  Say only what you mean.  Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.  Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Impeccable means "without sin" and a sin is something you do or believe that goes against yourself.  It means not speaking against yourself, to yourself or to others.  It means not rejecting yourself.  To be impeccable means to take responsibility for yourself, to not participate in "the blame game."

Regarding the word, the rules of "action-reaction" apply.  What you put out energetically will return to you.  Proper use of the word creates proper use of energy, putting out love and gratitude perpetuates the same in the universe.  The converse is also true. 

Impeccability starts at home.  Be impeccable with yourself and that will reflect in your life and your relationships with others.  This agreement can help change thousands of other agreements, especially ones that create fear instead of love.

Don't Take Anything Personally

Nothing others do is because of you.  What others say and do is a projection of their own dream.  When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

We take things personally when we agree with what others have said.  If we didn't agree, the things that others say would not affect us emotionally.  If we did not care about what others think about us, their words or behavior could not affect us.

Even if someone yells at you, gossips about you, harms you or yours, it still is not about you!  Their actions and words are based on what they believe in their personal dream.

Our personal "Book of Law" and belief system makes us feel safe.  When people have beliefs that are different from our own, we get scared, defend ourselves, and impose our point of view on others.  If someone gets angry with us it is because our belief system is challenging their belief system and they get scared.  They need to defend their point of view.  Why become angry, create conflict, and expend energy arguing when you are aware of this?

Don't Make Assumptions

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.  Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama.  With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

When we make assumptions it is because we believe we know what others are thinking and feeling.  We believe we know their point of view, their dream.  We forget that our beliefs are just our point of view based on our belief system and personal experiences and have nothing to do with what others think and feel. 

We make the assumption that everybody judges us, abuses us, victimizes us, and blames us the way we do ourselves.  As a result we reject ourselves before others have the chance to reject us.  When we think this way, it becomes difficult to be ourselves in the world.

Take action and be clear to others about what you want or do not want; do not gossip and make assumptions about things others tell you.  Respect other points of view and avoid arguing just to be right.  Respect yourself and be honest with yourself.  Stop expecting the people around you to know what is in your head.

Always Do Your Best

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick.  Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

Doing your best means enjoying the action without expecting a reward.  The pleasure comes from doing what you like in life and having fun, not from how much you get paid.  Enjoy the path traveled and the destination will take care of itself.

Living in the moment and releasing the past helps us to do the best we can in the moment.  It allows us to be fully alive right now, enjoying what is present, not worrying about the past or the future.

Have patience with yourself.  Take action.  Practice forgiveness.  If you do your best always, transformation will happen as a matter of course


Now cars will chat on roads to avoid accidents

Intelligent Transport System will help minimize the risk of accidents

Toyota Motor Corp. is testing car safety systems that allow vehicles to communicate with each other and with the roads they are on in a just completed facility in Japan the size of three baseball stadiums.

The cars at the Intelligent Transport System site receive information from sensors and transmitters installed on the streets to minimize the risk of accidents in situations such as missing a red traffic light, cars advancing from blind spots and pedestrians crossing the street. The system also tests cars that transmit such information to each other.

In a test drive for reporters Monday, the presence of a pedestrian triggered a beeping sound in the car and a picture of a person popped up on a screen in front of the driver. A picture of an arrow popped up to indicate an approaching car at an intersection. An electronic female voice said, "It's a red light," if the driver was about to ignore a red light.

The 3.5 hectare test site looks much like the artificial roads at driving schools, except bigger, and is in a corner of the Japanese automaker's technology center near Mount Fuji in Shizuoka Prefecture, central Japan.

Toyota officials said the smart-car technology it is developing will be tested on some Japanese roads starting in 2014. Similar tests are planned for the U.S., although details were not decided. Such technology is expected to be effective because half of car accidents happen at intersections, according to Toyota.

Managing Officer Moritaka Yoshida said Toyota sees preventing collisions, watching out for pedestrians and helping the driving of the elderly as key to ensuring safety in the cars of the future.

"We offer the world's top-level technology," he told reporters.

All automakers are working on pre-crash safety technology to add value to their cars, especially for developed markets such as the U.S., Europe and Japan. But the strongest sales growth is coming from emerging markets which are eventually expected to show more interest in safety technology.

Toyota's Japanese rival Nissan Motor Co. recently showed cars that were smart enough to stop on their own, park themselves and swerve away from pedestrians who suddenly jumped into the vehicle's path.

Toyota also showed a new feature that helps the driver brake harder to prevent bumping into the vehicle in front. Toyota officials said drivers often fail to push hard on their brakes in such situations because they get into a panic.

Toyota said the technology will be available "soon," without giving a date, and hinted it will be offered for Lexus luxury models. Luxury models already offer similar safety features such as automatic braking. Technology involving precise sensors remains expensive, sometimes costing as much as a cheaper Toyota car.

Toyota has also developed sonar sensors that help drivers avoid crashing in parking lots. One system even knows when the driver pushes on the gas pedal by mistake instead of the brakes, and will stop automatically.

Rear-end collisions make up 34 percent of car accidents in Japan, comprising the biggest category, followed by head-on collisions at 27 percent.

Cars that stop and go on their own, avoiding accidents, are not pure science fiction, experts say.

Alberto Broggi, professor at the University of Parma and an expert on intelligent transportation systems, said the idea of the accident-free cars is "very hot," and probably within reach on some roads within several years.

"I'm sure we will arrive to such a technology even if I don't know when exactly," he said

Source: Emirates 247


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Denmark to scrap world's first fat tax

A tax aiming to change eating habits in Denmark has increased prices for consumers and company costs without achieving its original purpose to improve Danes' diets.

Denmark said Saturday it would scrap a fat tax it introduced a little over a year ago in a world first, saying the measure was costly and failed to change Danes' eating habits.

"The fat tax and the extension of the chocolate tax -- the so-called sugar tax -- has been criticised for increasing prices for consumers, increasing companies' administrative costs and putting Danish jobs at risk," the Danish tax ministry said in a statement.

"At the same time it is believed that the fat tax has, to a lesser extent, contributed to Danes travelling across the border to make purchases," it added.

"Against this background, the government and the (far-left) Red Green Party have agreed to abolish the fat tax and cancel the planned sugar tax," the ministry said.
Denmark's centre-left minority government is made up of the Social Democrats, Social Liberals and Socialist People's Party, and requires support from other parties to pass legislation in parliament.
The government and the Red Greens reached the agreement as part of their negotiations on the 2013 budget bill.

The previous right-wing government introduced the fat tax in October 2011 to limit the population's intake of fatty foods.

According to the Danish National Health and Medicines Authority, 47 percent of Danes are overweight and 13 percent are obese.

"Now we need to try to do something else to address public health," Food Minister Mette Gjerskov said, news agency Ritzau reported.

The fat tax has been levied on all products containing saturated fats -- from butter and milk to pizzas, oils, meats and pre-cooked foods -- in a costing system that Denmark's Confederation of Industries has described as a bureaucratic nightmare for producers and outlets.

The measure added 16 kroner per kilo of saturated fats in a product.

As an example, when the tax was introduced the price of a pack of 250 grammes (0.5 pounds) of butter rose by 2.20 kroner ($0.37, 0.29 euros) to more than 18 kroner.

Several food chains said Saturday they would lower their prices accordingly once the tax is abolished, Ritzau reported.

Source : Ahram

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Quote on Commitment

 When your commitment is deeper than the sea and your ambition is taller than the sky then your future will be brighter than the sun.

How To Improve Your Time Management Skills Using 5 Simple Tips

If you always find yourself late for work, school or an appointment - or you often fail to finish your tasks - then you need to learn how to improve your time management skills.

It's not that hard, although it might seem that way at first. Habits can be tough to break; but if you stick to your regimen for at least 21 days, then you have a good chance of developing a new habit: one that makes sure you're always on time.

Learn how to manage your time better using these 5 simple tips below:

Tip # 1: Schedule Your Day.

If you want to learn how to improve your time management skills, then you need to have a concrete schedule for the day. Don't get out of bed thinking that you'll just wing it, because it often leads to a lot of time wastage.

It would be best to schedule and plan your tasks the night before, because your subconscious mind will help process their fulfillment while you're sleeping.

Tip # 2: Create A Check List.

If you have deadlines coming up, then you need to create a list arranged according to priority. This helps keep you on track and even encourages you to do more as fast as possible. There's nothing like a list to keep you motivated and pressured to do your job.

Tip # 3: Do Everything Faster.

I know this sounds like something your irrational boss would say, but doing things faster is quite a legitimate solution to manage your time effectively.

Cooking breakfast, for example, can be done a lot faster if you've prepared the meal the night before. Getting to work might also be done faster if you stopped to refill the fuel in your tank on your way home from work.

Tip # 4: Stop Wasting Time.

Spacing out for even just five minutes is a waste of time. Not taking a shortcut is also a waste of time. If you want to learn how to improve your time management skills, then you need to cut down on the activities that aren't related to work.

Chatting with your co-workers is fine; but perhaps you need to cut down on that too, especially if you have a deadline to meet.

Tip # 5: Learn To Multi-task.

Multi-tasking is not always advisable, especially if the tasks you're doing need your full concentration. In smaller tasks, however, I'm sure you can do more than one thing at a time. Want some examples?

How about reading a book while waiting for the food you're cooking to boil? Cleaning your room while talking to your parents is another way you can multi-task. And perhaps one of the best multi-tasking activities you can do is listening to motivational CDs while driving your car.

You probably didn't have any lessons on how to improve your time management skills when you were still studying in school. There might have been seminars, yes, but it is from experience that you really learn how to make good use of your time.

If you always find yourself late for work, school or an appointment - or you often fail to finish your tasks - then you need to learn how to improve your time management skills. This article shows you how.
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Forget zero calories: Pepsi unveils ‘fat blocking’ soda


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