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Are You An Explosive Personality Or The Implosive One?

Muhammad Amjad is a good friend of mine and I always spend quality time with him. Today, while we were discussing different personality traits from Anger Management perspective, he introduced me to the concept of Explosive and Implosive Personalities. So here is the summary of what we discussed:

If you belong to "Explosive Group of Angry People" then you tend to react on the spot when you don't like things, talks or an event whenever it happens. You don't hide your feelings and say whatever you feel about it. For example, at a ticket counter when someone breaks the queue, you speak loud about the violation that has happened. On the contrary, you belong to "Implosive Group of Angry People" when you keep your feelings within you. You feel that you can absorb the situation and you want to keep the situation peaceful. Artile written by Junaid.Tahir

Well, based on the above paragraph it will not be appropriate to conclude if Explosive Anger Reaction is better or Implosive Anger Reaction as both have their pros and cons. Below is the summary:

Explosive Anger Management: Since you don't keep things in heart instead you speak up so you are not building any stress inside you. So you are an open heart personality. Disadvantage is that if you have misjudged the situation and reacted all of a sudden, there is a chance that you will regret your statements and acts. Remember, words once spoken cannot be reverted. Because of your reactive personality, people prefer not to mingle with you as their respect is on stake while near you as they never know what will happen if you don't like anything at any point in time. Article written by Junaid.Tahir

Implosive Anger Management: The advantage is that you are creating a peaceful environment and avoiding any kind of brawl in your surroundings consequently people feel comfortable when you are around and they are easy to get along with you. The disadvantage is that by not speaking and reacting to the situations you are building stress inside you and impacting your peace of mind. Also, you are not playing your role in improving the situation and you are not adding any positive impact in your surroundings, society or family whichever applicable.

Overall, both approaches can be adopted at different type of situations. The optimum approach would be to keep yourself cool in all kind of circumstance. Whenever a situation triggers your anger, be logical, analytical and ethical in your response in such a way that you are contributing to improve the situation for yourself and for others as well. Article written by Junaid.Tahir

Small acts of kinds generate big ripples of happiness in the society.
If you have different opinions about Explosive and Implosive Anger Management, please do share.

M Junaid Tahir

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World’s First Personalized Mobile - Specially for kids and senior citizens

see the video here!

In opposition to the smartphones that are becoming more and more sophisticated, a UK-based company has launched the OwnFone, a terminal whose only feature is to dial contacts programmed and stored in the cloud.

Even though the trend is to acquire hybrid devices that combine a large number of features, the new OwnFon is the "living proof" that it's a device created against the stream.

The phone introduced in Great Britain dazzles with its simplicity. It has the dimensions of a credit card and you can configure up to 12 contacts before ordering the device. You can choose up to 12 phone numbers to set as favorite dial contacts, each on a dedicated button. That's it.

The phone pictured above is as efficient as it is simple. It doesn't come with loads of features and this is OwnFone's ace up the sleeve. Being extremely compact, can be handled and used by owners at any age, mostly because it has very few buttons. It looks like the OwnFone was developed to help you call only the important persons in your life.

With a maximum of 12 contacts displayed on the device, it's worth knowing that OwnFone doesn't come with a standard keyboard or a screen of any kind. Even so, you can visually customize it before making the purchase, by choosing between several colors, styles and patterns.

As you probably guessed, we are talking about a cheap phone, created as an alternative to the terminals squeezing your wallet. Since it looks good you can use it as a back-up for your iPhone, or when you run out of battery. It's an interesting idea, but, for the time being, the OwnFone is available exclusively in UK for a mere £55.

If you decide to get your hands on the OwnFone, you can head to the company's official website and personalize a device that suits your needs. The phone has a printable case, similar to the way a DVD's face is printed, and allows you to choose from two, four, eight or twelve contacts layout, customizable with colors and patterns.

We could easily say that the British company have designed the perfect phone for the children and the elders. The OwnFone is also perfect to those who travel a lot, as a plan B device when your smartphone's battery died and there's no outlet nearby.

The OwnFone is only 7 mm thick, has the size of a credit card and weighs in only 40 grams. The integrated battery can keep the phone awake for up to three days.

OwnFone is available exclusively in Great Britan and Ireland, and the company that developed the phone also provides mobile network solutions. The device is available with one of the three plans with and has a price of £55.

Those who want to receive the calls from another phone number can redirect their calls to the OwnFone

The Smart pen


Now, smart pen that vibrates when you make a grammatical error

London: A German firm claims to have created a hi-tech pen which vibrates every time it senses a spelling or grammar mistake.

German company Lernstift developed the pen to help youngsters learn to write, but it could catch on with people of all ages.

The pen, which is at the prototype stage, is capable of picking errors in spelling or letter formation in real-time, delivering a warning vibration to the writer's hand.

Users can choose between two functions: Calligraphy Mode - pointing out flaws of form and legibility or Orthography Mode - detecting orthographic and grammatical mistakes, the 'Daily Mail' reported.

Sensors built into the pen detect variations in the way letters are formed and buzzes immediately if an error is spotted.

Creators Falk and Mandy Wolsky were inspired by their son's early writing attempts, according to their website Lernstift.

It is hoped the quick prompts will help children learn to write more accurately, more quickly.

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Are You A Responsible Citizen?

While we are busy in enjoying our lives with our families and friends, it's almost mandatory to consider our role for the improvement of our environment, our surroundings and less fortunate community members.  In my personal opinion, it's not something which should be requested by the government, instead it's a prime duty of every responsible citizen. In fact, this is the 'virtual' tax which every citizen should pay back to the society for the services which he/she enjoys in routine life. This article is sort of a self-audit guide which covers some of the critical aspects of social responsibilities on the basis of which you can analyze yourself on whether you are a responsible community member:
1.   Do I observe people around me who need financial needs? Do I assist them in their crisis?
2.  Do I visit any orphan, old age houses or any hospitals once in a month to help the needful people?
3.  Do I take care of environment by using recyclable things?
4.  Do I encourage others (including my children) to throw garbage only in the dedicated bins?
5.  Whatever skills I have (doctor, engineer, lawyer etc), Do I do any free of cost service to the needful society members every month? Article written by Junaid.Tahir
6.  Do I contribute in charity projects on monthly basis?
7.  Have I ever donated blood?
8.  Do I stop the evil and contribute to the good? (Stopping sometimes does not mean stopping by hand, it means involving the relevant Law and Order authorities to address the issue)
If answer to any or some of these questions is NO, then it's time to start performing your civic responsibilities starting today. The first thing you can do right now is to share this article to others and generate a ripple effect.
Remember, if everyone of us start playing his/her role, we can bring peace, happiness and prosperity on earth !
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Story on Carelessness in medicines usage

 During one of my previous visits to my native country, I happened to go to the market on my brother's bike. It was a dusty dusk so my eyes got mild irritation. After taking the dinner at home, my sister in law told me to take an Eye soothing medicine from refrigerator. I took one Eyes Medicine out considering it to be an eye cleaner. I poured some drops into my eyes and lied down for relaxation. Around mid night, i went to washroom for night tooth brush and to my astonishment; i was unable to read the label of the tooth paste!!! I quickly washed my eyes again and tried to read but it was all blurry. This was the most horrible moment of my life. I couldn't believe 
what kind of stupid mistake I have done.  I am kind of a person who reads and investigates a lot about everything so it was very serious mistake on my part that i didn't read the label of the medicine properly. In fact this particular Eye Medicine was given to my elder brother by his doctor for his cornea expansion some weeks back. The soothing medicine was placed next to this medicine in refrigerator but I mistakenly took the wrong medicine. 
Anyways, I immediately rushed to the nearest hospital. The doctor on duty recommended visiting Eyes Specialist ASAP so I had to rush to another hospital. Off course, my brother was driving and i was sitting with my eyes closed and remembering God, seeking his blessings, thinking that i won't be able to continue my job and would lose my eye sight (God forbid). I was cursing the moment I used the medicine without proper care and vigilance. Anyways, we reached Eyes Hospital and the specialist treated me with the correct anti-allergic combination of medicines and in next half hour my eye sight became normal.
Based on this experience I recommend my readers the following: Whenever using medicine be vigilant on what disease you are suffering form and which medicine you are taking. 
  1. Always check the expiry date at the time of purchase and before using any medicines. Check the expiry of all medicines which you currently have in your house. Throw the expired ones.
  2. Read the side effects of medicine on internet. There are plenty of websites where you can type the medicine's name and it will give you side effects in detail. 
  3. If you have a sensitive symptom, don't try to be a doctor yourself. Visit a professional doctor and get prescription.
  4. Take the recommended amount of dosage. Don't invent dosage at your own.
  5. The health ministry of your country might have banned some medicine, try to investigate for a given medicine and report it to the relevant authorities in case of violation.  Play your role against corruption. 

Remember that mistakes are valuable as long as you learn from them. However, when it comes to sensitive matters like Health, do not take any risk. If you doubt on anything at first, doubt again. Consult doctor. Don't leave any symptom unattended. Small matters of ignorance can lead to big disasters in future!!!

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M Junaid Tahir

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The Trials in Life

 "We may dislike the trials God has given us. Though pious people have been reminding us that those trials only exist to make us stronger or to shape us into being a better person, some of us tend not to see the link. Alhamdulillah, a Muslim guy told me this: "Like a kid who hates medicines though the medicines are really what his body needs, the trials God give us are only here because they are what we really need to be a better person
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Story: The Teacher and the Tomatoes

A kindergarten teacher decided to let her class play a game.  
The teacher told each child in the class to bring along a plastic bag containing a few potatoes.  

Each potato will be given a name of a person that the child hates.  
So the number of potatoes that a child will put in his/her plastic bag will depend on the number of people he/she hates.  
So when the day came, each child brought some potatoes with the name of the people he/she hated. Some had 2 potatoes; some 3 while some up to 5 potatoes. The teacher then told the children to carry with them the potatoes in the plastic bag wherever they go (even to the toilet) for 1 week.
Days after days passed by, and the children started to complain due to the unpleasant smell let out by the rotten potatoes. Besides, those having 5 potatoes also had to carry heavier bags. After 1 week, the children were relieved because the game had finally ended....

The teacher asked: "How did you feel while carrying the potatoes with you for 1 week?". The children let out their frustrations and started complaining of the trouble that they had to go through having to carry the heavy and smelly potatoes wherever they go.

Then the teacher told them the hidden meaning behind the game. The teacher said: "This is exactly the situation when you carry your hatred for somebody inside your heart. The stench of hatred will contaminate your heart and you will carry it with you wherever you go.
If you cannot tolerate the smell of rotten potatoes for just 1 week, can you imagine what is it like to have the stench of hatred in your heart for your lifetime???"

M Junaid Tahir
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Agenda for an efficient meeting

Interpersonal Skills :: #4900
By Anonymous from USA. 

In the workplace, time is of the essence, and meetings can be the ultimate timewaster. How can you avoid wasting time and run the most efficient meetings possible? 

Try these tips
- Start and finish the meeting on time. If there's more to consider, plan the appropriate follow-up actions or schedule another meeting.
- At the close of the meeting, ask if participants are comfortable with the outcomes.
- Make sure all meeting participants know that you expect them to be on time and prepared to discuss their agenda items.
- Encourage everyone to speak up. Quieter people may have valuable contributions, but they may need some encouragement to share them.
- Provide a detailed agenda for each meeting. It should include topics for and the purpose of discussion, as well as a discussion leader and time allotment for each topic. Distribute the agenda a couple of days before the meeting so that meeting participants have time to prepare.
- Assign someone to take notes in each meeting. That way, decisions and follow-up action items are documented and can be circulated to the meeting's participants.
- Determine which meetings are really necessary. If the objective of a meeting is to simply update others about ongoing projects, it might make more sense to send a memo or group e-mail, or to post the information on your company's computer network. However, for in-depth discussions, meetings generally work best.
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positive lines full of energy

You're only a moment away from being more positive and
effective than you've ever been. You're only a moment away
from living life at its highest level. The only thing holding you back is your choice to keep
yourself back. That's a choice you can change right now.
You've gone long enough evading and avoiding your best
possibilities. Now it's time to accept that you're
absolutely worthy of the rich, fulfilling life you truly
That life can begin to be yours right now. That life can
start the moment you decide to stop hiding from the unique
beauty of who you truly are.
Yes, it will take effort, determination, faith, commitment
and discipline. And every moment of it will be infused with
the irreplaceable joy of knowing you're being true to your
own highest destiny.
Go ahead, from where you are, with what you have, and choose
to be an active participant in the unfolding of your best
possibilities. This is your life, this is your day, and this
is when the magic begins.
Ralph Marston

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9 steps to acheive your goals

1 Define your goal
The first step is to define your goal. Perhaps you've always dreamt about running a race or learning a new language? Maybe you're determined to seek a promotion or you simply want to shed a few kilos. Consider everything. What would you do if you had more time? What would you like to accomplish in the future? What do you regret about the past? In the words of motivational speaker Les Brown (, "Your goals are the road maps that guide you and show you what is possible for your life." Whatever you choose, make sure your goal is specific, achievable and tangible.
2 Set your deadline
A goal without a deadline can be forever postponed, so set a deadline and aim to be as realistic as possible. If your goal is to lose a certain amount of weight for example, count on losing 2 pounds (around one kilo) per week. If you have your eye on that promotion, think about when your next appraisal is scheduled or another opportunity when you will have the chance to shine. Diana Scharf Hunt, author of The Tao of Time (Fireside), summed it up perfectly by saying, "Goals are dreams with deadlines."
True motivation comes from understanding your underlying purpose, so think about what that is. Ensure your goal is something that you really want and not what others want you to do. Ensure also, that the goal you have set is in line with your overall purpose. If your purpose is to get fit, then a weight-loss goal may not be in line with this - it is possible to be slim, but still be unfit. Instead, it should rather be, "To achieve the same fitness levels I had when I was 20".
Determine, and better still, write down, the benefits you expect to enjoy from reaching your goal. Ask yourself what you will achieve from conquering your goal? Defining the benefits will help you to overcome moments of weakness. Evaluate these carefully and your goals will become much more attainable and your motivation increased. Lucy Mackintosh, NLP Coach and founder of The Law of Attraction Group in Dubai ( says, "Write them on post-it notes and stick them on the fridge, in the car, on a mirror; by never losing sight of the benefits of success, your goal will remain at the forefront of your mind which will only strengthen your resolve."
You must believe your goal is achievable; unless you believe you can 100 per cent reach it, you will have no true motivation. Those who think they can and those who think they can't are both right; the power of positive thinking knows no end. According to Carolyn Mitchell, NLP Life Coach and owner of Blue Sky Life Coaching (, "Affirmations are an excellent tool to promote self-belief and assure ourselves of positive outcomes. Begin with fast forwarding to the time when you have achieved your goal. Learn what it feels like [in your mind] to experience what the success of achieving your goal means to you. Feel it or see it for yourself. Once you have learned what success feels like, you simply can't 'unlearn' it. By writing, reading and re-experiencing those feelings of success over and over again you are essentially telling yourself what you want by believing that you already have it."
Now identify your potential obstacles. When suddenly faced with obstacles it can be difficult to remain focused and energetic. They can sap your energy, time and enthusiasm. What may hinder your progress? Old habits die hard and current mindsets can be difficult to shift, but identifying the obstacles will prepare you for the road ahead - forewarned is forearmed after all. "Be perfectly honest with yourself," says Carolyn, "this is the only way to identify all the possible problem areas. And only when you identify these can you develop strategies to minimise them."
7 Seek the Solutions
Think about how you can overcome these obstacles. What in your life needs changing? This is your opportunity to plan your strategies for handling the setbacks. If you consider each obstacle, one by one, you can easily identify a suitable solution; this may mean a change to your usual routine, enlisting the support of a friend or family member or a change to your current mindset. "If you can't find the solution yourself then ask someone who has achieved a similar goal how they did it" says Lucy, "or imagine you are sitting with a role model, a top athlete, for example. Ask them what to do and then put yourself in their shoes and give the advice they would give."
Take time to imagine that you have achieved your goal. What is it like? How do you feel? Excited? Exuberant? How has your life changed? How does it look, feel or sound? Capture that moment in your head and never lose sight of it. Try to make your vision so clear that you can perceive it with all five senses. The clearer the image in your mind, the easier it is to manifest into reality or in the words of Napoleon Hill, author of Think & Grow Rich (Ballantine Books), "What the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve."
9 Create your action plan
Create a step-by-step action plan detailing exactly what you need to do to achieve the goal. Remember in step one we identified that goals are the road maps that guide you? Well think of your action plan as the specific directions to get you to your destination, via the quickest and easiest route possible. Depending on the nature of your goal, identify any major milestones necessary to achieve it, then break down each milestone into specific tasks or steps. Sometimes just knowing where to start is hard, in which case enlist the support of others, be it friends, colleagues or a support group. Be prepared to journal the process. Writing things down helps to collate our thoughts, handle potholes and identify and deal with weaknesses. Strive to make progress every day. Every single day. And tell everyone you know about your goal - accountability is a great way to ensure that you do what needs to be done

5 Ways to Advance Your Career

As we begin the new year, there may be unique opportunities for you to advance your career, either at your current organisation or with a new employer. You would not want these opportunities to pass you by.
Here are five recommendations on how you can grab opportunities in the workplace:
  • Be a leader. As organisations begin to restart projects, they'll need individuals to lead these initiatives. Volunteering for these assignments can be a good way to demonstrate your ability to assume more responsibility, gain visibility and build new skills.

    When opportunities arise, let your manager know about your interest in them. Even if the project in question isn't the right one for you, he or she may have other projects lined up that are better suited to your abilities. Just be careful not to get in over your head. Volunteering for extra duties when your plate is already full can cause your performance to suffer and even lead to burnout.
  • Ask for training and development opportunities. Think about how you'd like your career to progress and in which areas you might need to build new skills. For example, if you are an accountant, you might want to pick up leadership and management skills so that you might be considered a worthy candidate should the opportunity arise.

    In a recent survey conducted by Robert Half, 41 per cent of CFOs surveyed across Australia and Asia indicated that leadership skills are one of the three most valuable skills for finance and accounting professionals in today's business environment. Companies may have more funds to invest in training and professional development opportunities in the new year, so be sure to approach your manager first. Make a case for how a particular course, seminar or conference will help you and benefit the company. If few internal opportunities exist, be proactive and seek out training programmes through local educational institutions, professional associations or online providers.
  • Find a mentor. Getting to the next step can be easier with advice from someone who is already there. Before identifying a mentor however, make sure you are clear about what your professional goals are and what you hope to gain from the relationship. These factors will determine whom you tap on for assistance. For example, if you hope to earn a promotion, you might look to a manager within your firm who has risen through the ranks. If you're interested in switching careers, you might seek the counsel of a networking contact who has moved from IT to sales. Ask friends, family and members of your professional network for recommendations.
  • Network. Networking is an important component of any job search. But even if you're not looking for a position with a different firm, keep in mind that it still pays to grow your network, especially inside your organisation. Expanding your base of contacts can help you identify valuable allies and establish connections that make it easier to secure resources and support. And networking can help you move up the career ladder. Making sure you are well known throughout the company could increase your chances of securing one of these opportunities.
  • Keep up with new trends. Those who are best able to advance their careers have their finger on the pulse of the field so that they can identify and take advantage of new trends. Stay up to date of developments in your area of specialisation by reading industry publications, online articles and blogs. You may also consider joining a professional organisation. These groups often feature speakers and thought leaders speaking about new developments and trends. Your research will also help you keep tabs on areas of job growth – or contraction – within your industry so you can determine how much promise your current career path has. Think about both the short term and the long term so that you will always find yourself in the right place – ahead of the curve

How to Develop Analytical Skills

In our day to day life whether official, personal or social, we have to deal with complications. Some situations are easy to handle with but other are complex which snatch the peace of mind because our brain gets stuck on how best to handle such state of affair. This is where our Analytical Skills help us. The prime purpose for the Analysis of any given situation is to get to know the root cause(s) of the issue, to forecast the impact and to plan corrective/preventive actions strategy. So basically analytical skill is to visualize a given situation, task, project or issue from several angles in order to breakdown it into smaller steps.
Below are different situations where our analytical skills are required. I shall give advices in each category accordingly:

1)    When Summarizing Large Amount of Data: In this situation, I highly recommend using Pivot Tables feature of MS Excel in order to generate reports. The Pivot Reports feature allows us playing with the data in several ways to generate multi dimensional reports. We can breakdown large amount of data in different sheets to apply Pivot Reports separately as well. Youtube is a very good source of videos for learning this skill. Pivot table can also generate reports for Trends and Forecast in two to three dimensions.

2)   When  Resolving Conflicts in Office: In this case, listen to all parties which are having difference of opinion. List down the positive and negative input factors and after-effects based on feedback from individuals. Make it in tabular format and review this with your manager to see which one is the best option to go for. Then call for a meeting to elaborate the overall picture based on your fair analysis and convince personnel for the option which is in the best interest of the company. Read me detailed article here 

3)   When Being Assigned a large project: in this case you need to make a high level agenda (High Level Project Deliverables) and then start working on WBS (Work Breakdown Structure) and then assign each task to relevant resource. While making WBS you can have a meeting with your Team Leads and other stake holders. You can consider Fishbone diagram to analyze the inputs of any task. The article written by Junaid Tahir (mjunaidtahir at gmail dot com) 

4)   When Resolving a Technical issue: The advice here is to consult the product guide to see the possible root causes, consult the SME (Subject Matter Expert) for opinion or consult the Lesson Learnt Register. For all kind of issues resolutions, I always recommend two things. First is to take corrective action to fix the issue, Second is to take Preventive Action (fix the root cause permanently) so that the issues do not pop up again. Six Sigma's DMAIC is another recommended way for analyzing and improving. If you want to learn Six Sigma, either do google search or drop me an email mjunaidtahir at gmail dot com so I can share my knowledge J

5)   When purchasing something: Let us take the example of mobile phone. When you want to purchase a new mobile you need to ask yourself: do I need touch screen, do I need wifi, do I really need to purchase new mobile, what is my budget? do I need 5MP camera, do I need iphone or Android, do I need 4 inch screen or less? What other specs do I need to consider. So Basically you are analyzing your demands to come up with the right mobile which is to be purchased. Read my article on how to buy the best phone here

6)   When handling family conflicts: Being a sensitive subject, this is something where you need much more than analytical skills; For each family member involved in the conflict, you have to have sense of feelings,emotions study, stress absorption power, age factor, relationship level and convincing power so in my opinion this is the most difficult part of practicing your analytical skills. You have to consistently guide everyone about 'forgive and forget' policy. You have to calmly listen to each party and take adequate time to analyze all aspects (as mentioned a couple of lines back) vigilantly before concluding something on the brawl. 

Conclusion: Analytical skills can make your life easier in almost all aspects of decision making or problem solving, however, it's not only the matter of considering all the options and the inputs, its matter of considering the weight of each option as well. For example, for a given situation you have two options having equal number of advantages or disadvantages so in order to conclude in such situation you have to consider the weight of each option. While doing your analysis you might want to consider the difference between Urgent and Important things. If that is the case please read my article
Develop and Sharpen your analytical skills to take steps for reducing stress in your life consequently ensuring the peace of mind
M Junaid Tahir
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Story: Self Confidence

The business executive was deep in debt and could see no way out. Creditors were closing in on him. Suppliers were demanding payment. He sat on the park bench, head in hands, wondering if anything could save his company from bankruptcy.

Suddenly an old man appeared before him.

"I can see that something is troubling you," he said.

After listening to the executive's woes, the old man said,

"I believe I can help you."

He asked the man his name, wrote out a check, and pushed it into his hand saying,

"Take this money. Meet me here exactly one year from today, and you can pay me back at that time."

Then he turned and disappeared as quickly as he had come.

The business executive saw in his hand a check for $500,000, signed by John D. Rockefeller, then one of the richest men in the world!

"I can erase my money worries in an instant!"

He realized. But instead, the executive decided to put the uncashed check in his safe. Just knowing it was there might give him the strength to work out a way to save his business, he thought.

With renewed optimism, he negotiated better deals and extended terms of payment. He closed several big sales. Within a few months, he was out of debt and making money once again.

Exactly one year later, he returned to the park with the uncashed check.

At the agreed-upon time, the old man appeared. But just as the executive was about to hand back the check and share his success story, a nurse came running up and grabbed the old man.

"I'm so glad I caught him!" she cried.

"I hope he hasn't been bothering you. He's always escaping from the rest home and telling people he's John D. Rockefeller."

And she led the old man away by the arm.

The astonished executive just stood there, stunned. All year long he'd been wheeling and dealing, buying and selling, convinced he had half a million dollars behind him.

Suddenly, he realized that it wasn't the money, real or imagined, that had turned his life around. It was his newfound self-confidence that gave him the power to achieve anything he went after