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Do You Keep People Happy?

By Junaid Tahir
Keeping people happy is one of the signs of God's presence in your heart because spreading and ensuring happiness around you is the a human-nature-based instinct which is concretely linked with Universal principles of God.
Making people laugh for a short span of time is not to be considered as keeping them happy altogether because laughter is just a sub-set of happiness. You might make person giggle or feel good with by a joke, a sitcom, a nice instant comment but this feeling is for a very short span of time but keeping people happy for long terms is your real achievement because it indicates a permanent demonstration of your character trait for possessing high degree of care and love for others. (more articles on happiness and stress management can be read at www. DailyTenMinutes dot com)

Below are some good assessment points for you in terms of people's behaviour towards you: 

1-    Do people, directly or indirectly, appreciate you for your kind words and deeds quite often?
2-   Do people keep in touch with you by sending text, emails, phone calls etc?
3-   Do people trust in you and discuss their personal problems with you to seek advice?
4-   Do people share their secrets because they consider you as a deep sea who would keep the secret?
5-   Do people consider you as:
a.    Soft-heart person?
b.    An empathic Listener?
c.    A helping hand? 
d.    A conflict solver?
6-   Do people learn new moral, social, financial or ethical lessons when they meet you? Do they consider you as a source of inspiration and positivity?

In case your answer to these questions is No then you need to work on things bringing happiness in their lives which will bring you one step closer to God's blessings. Again, remember the fact that keeping people happy is not about making them laugh it's basically triggering the long lasting feeling of contentment and tranquillity in someone's heart by your persistent loving and caring behaviour.

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About Author: Junaid Tahir is a passionate blogger. He writes articles on leadership, Stress Management and Life Enhancement subjects at his personal blog

10 Tips to fight depression

By: Junaid Tahir
During the phase of depression sometimes we become pessimist and our negative thoughts make it hard toattain back the peaceful state. As we are already depressed due to tough circumstances, these negative thoughts add fuel to fire and steal our peace of mind making it really hard to concentrate even on routine things. So what should be done to fight the depression and negativity? Below are the tips to be considered:

1-    Try not to think about problems of past and rough circumstances again and again; instead focus on the solutions. Think what needs to be done to fix the issues.
2-   Change your environment. Take a break from your routine life and visit some relative or explore some new city/country.
3-   Stay away from negative people. Remember, if someone is negative, he/she is spreading negative germs. Keep yourself germ-free.
4-   Read news paper or a good book on daily basis.
5-   Go to market and buy yourself something you like. Feel good about it.
6-   Surround yourself among happy people. Spend quality time with joyful and colorful friends
7-   Adopt some good hobby and spend time on it. (gardening, blogging, book reading)
8-   Visit Orphan house and spend time with children. Help them financially if possible. Give gifts. This act gives real inner happiness.
9-   Think about the positive events of your life. About your childhood, education, fun trip, a friend's wedding etc.

10- Don't allow people to make your life miserable. No one is in-charge of your happiness except you so ignore negative comments and suggestions

About Author: Junaid Tahir, a telecom engineer and a blogger, writes articles on wisdom, happiness and stress management. His articles can be read Here

·         The Power of Not Looking Back
·         Are You Explosive or Implosive? It’s important to Know
·         6 Tips for Anger Management
·         7 Super Powers You Must Posses
·         10 Rules for Peace of Mind

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Story: Keep driving - The message for consistency

This is an imaginary story with a good lesson.
A lady
was driving along with her father. They came upon a storm, and the young lady asked her father, What should I do?" He said "keep driving"..Cars began to pull over to the side, the storm was getting worse. "What should I do." The young lady
asked? "Keep driving," her father replied. On up a few feet, she noticed that eighteen wheelers were also pulling over. She told her dad, "I must pull over, I can barely see ahead. It is terrible, and everyone is pulling over!" Her father told her,"Don't give up, just keep driving!" Now the storm was terrible, but she never stopped driving, and soon she could see a little more clearly. After a couple of miles she was again on dry land, and the sun came out. Her father said, "Now you can pull over and get out." She said "But why now?" He said:
"When you get out, look back at all the people that gave up and are still in the storm, because you never gave up your storm is now over. 

This is a testimony for anyone who is going through "hard times". Just because everyone else, even the strongest, gives up. You don't have to...if you keep going, soon your storm will be over and the sun will shine upon your face again. 
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Health: How to Treat Migraine

About two thirds of migraine sufferers cannot function at a normal level when they get a migraine attack. You should see a doctor if your headaches interfere with work or family life, if headaches are getting worse, or if you take medication on a daily basis for headache.

Below are 10 simple solutions to ease your migraine pain, but are not intended as substitutes for the advice of a doctor.

Get a good night's sleep. Changes in sleep patterns, changing shifts, and jet lag can trigger migraines. Try to maintain a regular schedule and get up and go to bed at the same time every s

Lie down, put an ice pack wrapped in a towel or a cold compress on your throbbing head to soothe swollen, pulsing blood vessels until the pain subsides.

If you don't want to put a cold compress on your head to relieve the pain, soak one or both of your hands in ice water for as long as you can tolerate it. While your hands are in the water, ball them into fists and open and close them repeatedly. It can have the same effect as a compress on your heart

Keep the room dark. Light sometimes aggravates migraine symptoms, lie down in a dark room.

Do not skip meals. Skipping meals can trigger a migraine attack. If you can, eat smaller meals throughout the day or be sure to eat three meals.

Take note of what you eat. Certain foods triggers a migraine attack in about ten percent of migraine sufferers. It can take from 30 minutes to 12 hours for a food to cause a reaction. If you get a migraine, think back to what you ate in that time frame and try eliminating some of those foods from your diet.

Take riboflavin. Studies have shown that taking 400 milligrams a day of riboflavin can help eliminate migraines.

Spice it up. The hot ingredient in red pepper, capsaicin, is a terrific painkiller and may help those who have migraines feel better during an attack. You do not need to include red pepper in all your meals. You can buy cayenne pepper capsules in health food stores.

Try not to sleep late on weekends. Though it might seem like a reward to relax and sleep in, giving yourself that letdown after stress is a common trigger. Waking up late can also trigger a migraine by changing your normal sleep pattern and may cause you to miss breakfast which also triggers a migraine. If you really must sleep late on the weekends, try sleeping with a tiny bit of your window open to let air in.

If you're prone to vomiting during migraines, keep a can of Campbell's Chicken Broth upside down in your refrigerator. Really. After you're finished in the bathroom, take out the can, turn it right-side up, open, pour out the broth (leave the fat stuck to the top), and drink it once you're able. Replaces needed electrolytes, etc., helps relieve the weakness and general malaise. Don't know why Campbell's works better than any other brand, but it does.

Sometimes a bath helps. Take a bath in your bathroom with the lights off. Soak yourself face down (don't forget to come up for air) and just try and relax your body.

In some cases, low levels of the hormone progesterone appear to increase the frequency and severity of migraines. If you are a woman, and your migraines occur more often in the 2 weeks before menses, be suspicious and ask your doctor to check your progesterone levels (note: many doctors are unaware of this link, but if your levels are found to be low, they may be willing to prescribe supplementation). 14
Use acupressure to momentarily relieve pain; tap three times on your temple, your shoulder and then the inside of your wrist. Repeat.

7 Cs of Success

by Brian Tracy

Clarity: Eighty percent of success comes from being clear on who you are, what you believe in and what you want.

Competence: You can't climb to the next rung on the ladder until you are excellent at what you do now.

Eighty percent of all obstacles to success come from within. Find out what is constraining in you or your company and deal with it.

The ability to focus on one thing single-mindedly and see it through until it's done takes more character than anything else.

Flood your life with ideas from many sources. Creativity needs to be exercised like a muscle; if you don't use it you'll lose it.

Most in demand and least in supply, courage is the willingness to do the things you know are right.

Continuous learning:
Read, at the very least, one book a week on business to keep you miles ahead of the competition. And just as you eat and bathe, organize your time so you spend 30 minutes a day exploring email, sending messages, going through websites, because like exercise, it's the only way you can keep on top of technology. If you get away from it, you'll lose your edge.

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The 8 Ps of Vision and Strategy

By Junaid Tahir

The young boy asked the old man, "why a fast running horse is better than the slow running horse"? The old man said, "it has developed the habit to produce more power so that it can run up to ten times faster than the slow horse" The youngster said, "and what if the horse is running in the wrong direction"? The old man smiled and said, "then definitely it has the proportionate factor for wasting the efforts ten times quicker than the slower horse" The young man said, " and what if other horses are following him too" The older man said, "off course it will mislead all those horses too!" "Then why all other horses follow the faster horse" "Because that attracts them but all that glitters is not gold sometimes"

Vision is one of the most critical traits of current and emerging leaders because strong vision results establishing better strategy to ensure success.
In its basic definition, the vision is to see (visualize) the future at present moment and then aligning the strategies including but not limited to policies, procedures and action plans in order to ensure success without any setbacks.

Below 8 Ps elaborate the concept of Vision and Strategy altogether:  

1.     Picking the Right Battle: Effective leaders ponder well enough to chose the right course of direction (the mission) which can lead them towards success with higher success probability and greater efficiency. This does not means that they select easy targets instead sometimes they select more challenging grounds with their gut feeling of success. However they are careful in making their choices because of being the captain of the boat. If the leader succeeds, the boat sails; if leader drowns the whole boat gets collapsed. 
2.    Perspective: How a leader sees the future is very sensitive matter. No matter how genius team members he/she possesses; his own vision is highly important. It is said that an army of dears lead by a lion is far better than any army of lions lead by a dear. The leader's vision depends on the level of mental comprehension of industry, current statistics, near future and long term forecasts/trends, overall knowledge and experience of associated domains, a lot of study and observation about market and expectation of stake holders. More articles on leadership can be read at www. DailyTenMinutes dot com
3.    Present Position: The leader must define the baseline because this will be the reference to be compared when measuring performance and progress at later stage. The visionary leader must clearly define the Key Performance Indicators (KPIs); the current values of KPIs, bench marking in line with industry standards, the measurement criteria and measurement frequency.
4.    Policies and Procedures: The review of current and finalization of policies for concrete results should be done prior to kick off the execution phase. Yet a leader should be smart enough to closely monitor and tweak the policies and procedures in case something is putting the projects/programs in jeopardy. The market dynamics demands consistent focus and a lot of iterations in companies' strategies.
5.    Plans: Failing to plan is planning to fail. The leader would define high level goals; the goals which are SMART (Specific, Measureable, Achievable, Realistic, Time bound)  Once defined, the leader assigns these to the team of managers which in turn use the RACI model for further low level implementation. (RACI tool is used for defining Responsibility Matrix; RACI stands for Responsible, Accountable, Consulted, Informed respectively)
6.    Pattern: Although Low level micro tasks is not a specific leaders' responsibility but it becomes very effective if leaders take active part few times during the life cycle of the project; especially when WBS (work breakdown structures) are prepared by the associated Project Managers. Sometimes his/her vision and experience can make big difference when reviewing WBS with the PM.
7.    Progress & Performance: Consistent progress and performance measurement against the baseline must be ensured by the leaders. This also requires risk identification, risk analysis and risk mitigation. The project becomes orphans if the leader does not review its performance periodically.
8.    Power Plug: Last but not the least, he becomes the consistent source of inspiration, fuel and energy for his team members. By this act he ensure that the 'batteries' (employee's working potential) are charged throughout the life cycle of the project.

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About Author: Junaid Tahir is a passionate blogger. He writes articles on leadership, Stress Management and Life Enhancement subjects at his personal blog