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12 Ways to Build your Child's Self-Esteem - Parenting



Self-esteem is a very important ingredient for a successful and happy life. A person can be blessed with intelligence and talent but if he or she lacks self-esteem, this can be an obstacle in achieving success in a job, a relationship and in virtually every area of life.

The early years of a child's life are the foundation for a positive self-esteem.

As parents, we cannot control everything our child sees, hears or thinks, which will be contributing to his or her self-image. But there is still much that we could do. We have the child at the earliest years of his life; G-d has given us a special gift--a new human being with a "clean slate." During those early years, what goes into the child's mind is very impressionable. Parents are therefore provided with a unique, never-to-be-repeated opportunity to set up a "self-esteem bank account" in which the child will store many positive things about him or herself. In the years and decades to come, this "bank account" will balance out negative experiences, which are unavoidable.

So how do we endow our child's bank account? How can we, as parents, build up our child's self-esteem? The following are some suggestions:
  1. Show love and affection to your child. All our dealings with our children, starting from infancy, should be done with a lot of affection and love. A baby who was dealt with love and affection will get a subconscious feeling that s/he is worthy and important enough to be loved.
  2. Compliment your child. Give your child compliments as often as possible, whenever they do something right. Say, "I am very proud of you. You are very special. I like the way you have done it."
  3. Make your compliments credible. It is important, however, that the compliments be credible. Exaggerated compliments like, "You are the best in the world. You are the nicest person that ever lived" can actually be counter-productive. The child will develop an inflated ego, and that can affect his relationship with friends, which in the long run will have a negative effect on his or her self-esteem.
  4. Set goals for your child. The goal should be something attainable--to get dressed by herself, to get a certain mark on his next test. Set goals that are suited for the child's age and capabilities (setting a goal which is unattainable will have a negative effect). As the child works toward the goal, coach her along and compliment her success each step along the way. Once the child reaches the goal, compliment her achievement and reinforce her self-image as an achiever.
  5. Criticize the action, not the person. When the child does something negative, say to the child, "You are such a good and special child, you should not be engaging in such an activity," instead of saying, "you are a bad child."
  6. Validate your child's feelings. When your child suffers a blow to his self-esteem, it's important to validate his feelings. For example, if the child gets offended by a hurtful comment made by a friend or a teacher, say to the child, "Yes, you were offended by what that person said" or "you were offended by the fact that the other person doesn't like you." Only after the child feels that his feelings have been validated will he be open to you bolstering his self-esteem by pointing out the people who do like him, and the positive things that others have said about him.
  7. Be proud of your child. On a regular basis, we must remember to tell the child how fortunate and how proud we are to be her parents.
  8. Talk positively about your child in the presence of important people in his life, such as grandparents, teachers, friends etc.
  9. Never to compare your child to others, saying, "why aren't you like Johnny?" When such comparisons are made by others, reassure your child that she is special and unique in her own way."
  10. Make sure that others dealing with your child know your child's strengths. At the beginning of the school year, speak with your child's teachers and tell them what your child's special strengths are and about the areas in which he or she excels, so that the teacher will have a positive outlook towards them and will continue to build on those strengths.
  11. Tell the child on a regular basis that you will love them unconditionally. When they fail, or do the wrong thing, remember to say to them, "You are special to me, I will always love you, no matter what!"
  12. Tend to your own self-esteem. You need to see yourself in a positive light. Parents who lack self-esteem will have difficulties bringing up a child with a high self-esteem. A good positive parent is a parent who knows that he or she is not perfect but values him or herself, while always trying to grow and imp

How to Chose Smart Phone?

Since every person has his/her own likings and disliking when it comes to purchasing a new mobile so there is no final answer on which mobile is the best mobile. However, in this article I will help you find the best mobile which you are looking for. Also I will keep this article less technical for your better understanding.

Generally speaking, purchasing a new smart phone has become a tricky task because of hundreds of mobiles available in the market. This is actually a good thing because you can chose the best mobile from a wide range of mobiles.  If you are an Iphone or Blackberry fan then the task becomes easier but please be sure if you really need an Iphone or a Blackberry. However, if you consider purchasing an Android or Windows based phones then you have a variety of options to consider before you conclude the final model.

To make this task easy, I recommend visiting gsmarena.com where you can easily filter down the huge database of mobiles to a small number and then you can compare these mobile with each other to conclude which mobile is best for you. The filtering process is easy to use and can be completed in a minute. The Filtering Tool consequently brings you very less number of mobiles which fulfill your requirements. The filtering is done based on your choice of selecting the screen size, front/back cameras specifications, processor (CPU) speed (CPU), memory size, RAM/ROM, , Operating system, GPS, wifi (WLAN) etc. Once you are left with 2-5 options you can use the phone comparison feature to select the master piece you are looking for.

This is how the Phone Finder looks like:

Below are some key questions you might have while selecing your mobile:

Which Operating System:
The most common now a days is Android as it gives hundreds of thousands of free applications and games to download and enjoy however few applications might be vulnerable. On the other hand, iOS has less number of applications but more secure compared to Android. If you are curious to know more about Android, iOS, Blackberry and Windows then visit this page

Which Camera:
If you are not too techy and want to capture the pictures for Facebook or personal home usage then  5Mega pixel is sufficient for you. If the Camera has Flash then it is an add-on.

Which Processor:
I suggest considering 1GHz processor minimum at the time of this article. Less than this may result in slow response time in using your mobile

What Memory Size:
If you are looking for good response time, consider 512MB minimum for RAM. For storage consider 8GB to 16GB since you would like to keep a lot of pictures and multimedia in your mobile.

I have tried to keep this article simple and easy to understand in order to buy the best mobile phone. If you would like to discuss any in-depth features or if you have a high-end technical query, please reach me here and I shall try to help as early as possible.

Mr. Nazir Lost His Wife


One day Mr Nazir reached the post office and spoke very seriously; 'I would like to register a complaint.' Post master asked eagerly; 'What is your problem?'
"For three days my wife is not at home. You must search for her and find out." Post Master cooled himself down and said; "Mr Nazir, you are supposed to give this complaint in the police station. Look, just at the other side of the road, there is the police station."
Nazir was very angry. He said; "I know that the complaint is to be filed in the police station. But I would like to give this complaint here."
Post Master was in a dilemma. He told Nazir, "We have no right or power to search for a missing person. That's up to the Police. Therefore you should give a complaint in the police station. They will find out your wife."
"It is because of the same reason, that I will never give a complaint there. Last time when she left from the house, I was thinking of having some leisure time free from all trouble. But neighbors forced me to find her out and I filed a complaint in the police station. They found my wife and brought her home. This time too, the neighbors are forcing me to give a complaint. Therefore you should help me.
Receive this complaint here. If anyone asks me of giving the complaint, I could give them a positive answer. No one may ask where I have given the complaint. If I give a complaint in the police station, they may find out my wife. Let me live happily, at least for a month. After that I myself will find her out."
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The reason for giving a complaint is solving the problem. But sometimes as Nazir  we complaint without desiring a solution. Some people complain of sickness most of the times. It is a painful fact that at times they prefer to remain sick. Their aim is to get sympathy from others. They may have an inner thirst for love, care, consideration and appreciation from others.
People use sickness to cover up their failures and irresponsibility. Whatever medication or whoever be the doctor their sickness remains unhealed. Because they are not eager to lead a healthy life.
The spiritual aridity of many lies in the fact that they search for blessings but not the one who gives the blessings. Many are worried of the sins they commit, but prefer to enjoy the pleasures of sin. They may not eagerly thirst for a holy life. We are attracted to what we desire. For those who search God with whole mind and heart, He will reveal Himself. We are yet to learn to search God with whole heart, mind and soul.
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Story: The Farmer and Onions



In 1919 when the flu killed 40 million people there was this Doctor that visited the many farmers to see if he could help them combat the flu...
Many of the farmers and their families had contracted it and many died.

The doctor came upon this one farmer and to his surprise, everyone was very healthy. When the doctor asked what the farmer was doing that was different the wife replied that she had placed an unpeeled onion in a dish in the rooms of the home, (probably only two rooms back then). The doctor couldn't believe it and asked if he could have one of the onions and place it under the microscope. She gave him one and when he did this, he did find the flu virus in the onion. It obviously absorbed the bacteria, therefore, keeping the family healthy.
Now, I heard this story from my hairdresser. She said that several years ago, many of her employees were coming down with the flu, and so were many of her customers. The next year she placed several bowls with onions around in her shop. To her surprise, none of her staff got sick. It must work. Try it and see what happens. We did it last year and we never got the flu.

Now there is a P. S. to this for I sent it to a friend in Oregon who regularly contributes material to me on health issues. She replied with this most interesting experience about onions:
Thanks for the reminder. I don't know about the farmer's story...but, I do know that I contacted pneumonia, and, needless to say, I was very ill... I came across an article that said to cut both ends off an onion put it into an empty jar, and place the jar next to the sick patient at night. It said the onion would be black in the morning from the germs...sure enough it happened just like that...the onion was a mess and I began to feel better.

Another thing I read in the article was that onions and garlic placed around the room saved many from the black plague years ago. They have powerful antibacterial, antiseptic properties.
This is the other note. Lots of times when we have stomach problems we don't know what to blame. Maybe it's the onions that are to blame. Onions absorb bacteria is the reason they are so good at preventing us from getting colds and flu and is the very reason we shouldn't eat an onion that has been sitting for a time after it has been cut open.

LEFT OVER ONIONS ARE POISONOUS

I had the wonderful privilege of touring Mullins Food Products, Makers of mayonnaise. Questions about food poisoning came up, and I wanted to share what I learned from a chemist.
Ed, who was our tour guide, is a food chemistry whiz. During the tour, someone asked if we really needed to worry about mayonnaise. People are always worried that mayonnaise will spoil. Ed's answer will surprise you. Ed said that all commercially-made mayo is completely safe.

"It doesn't even have to be refrigerated. No harm in refrigerating it, but it's not really necessary." He explained that the pH in mayonnaise is set at a point that bacteria could not survive in that environment. He then talked about the summer picnic, with the bowl of potato salad sitting on the table, and how everyone blames the mayonnaise when someone gets sick.
Ed says that, when food poisoning is reported, the first thing the officials look for is when the 'victim' last ate ONIONS and where those onions came from (in the potato salad?). Ed says it's not the mayonnaise (as long as it's not homemade mayo) that spoils in the outdoors. It's probably the ONIONS, and if not the onions, it's the POTATOES.

He explained onions are a huge magnet for bacteria, especially uncooked onions. You should never plan to keep a portion of a sliced onion.. He says it's not even safe if you put it in a zip-lock bag and put it in your refrigerator.

It's already contaminated enough just by being cut open and out for a bit, that it can be a danger to you (and doubly watch out for those onions you put in your hotdogs at the baseball park!). Ed says if you take the leftover onion and cook it like crazy you'll probably be okay, but if you slice that leftover onion and put on your sandwich, you're asking for trouble. Both the onions and the moist potato in a potato salad, will attract and grow bacteria faster than any commercial mayonnaise will even begin to break down.
Also, dogs should never eat onions. Their stomachs cannot metabolize onions.

Please remember it is dangerous to cut an onion and try to use it to cook the next day, it becomes highly poisonous for even a single night and creates toxic bacteria which may cause adverse stomach infections because of excess bile secretions and even food poisoning.
Please pass this on to all you love and care about.

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Proven Ways to Get Along Better with EVERYONE



1. Before you say anything to anyone, ask yourself 3 things: Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
2. Make promises sparingly and keep them faithfully.

3. Never miss the opportunity to compliment or
say something encouraging to someone.

4. Refuse to talk negatively about others;
Don't gossip and don't listen to gossip.

5. Have a forgiving view of people.
Believe that most people are doing the best they can.

6. Keep an open mind; Discuss, but don't argue.
(It is possible to disagree without being disagreeable. )

7. Forget about counting to 10. Count to 1,000
before doing or saying anything that could make matters worse.

8. Let your virtues speak for themselves.

9. If someone criticizes you,
see if there is any TRUTH to what is being said;
If so, make changes;
If there is no truth to the criticism,
ignore it and live so that no one will believe the negative remark.

10. Cultivate your sense of humor;
Laughter is the shortest distance between two people.

11. Do not seek so much to be consoled, as to console;
Do not seek so much to be understood, as to understand;
Do not seek so much to be loved as to love.




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Story: The Ant In The Balcony



One Sunday morning a wealthy man sat in his balcony enjoying
sunshine and his coffee when a little ant caught his eye which was
going from one side to the other side of the balcony carrying a big leaf
 several times more than its size. The man watched it for more than an hour.
He saw that the ant faced many impediments during its journey, ,
took a diversion and then continued towards destination.

At one point the tiny creature came across a crack in the floor.
It paused for a little while, analyzed and then laid the huge leaf over the crack,
 walked over the leaf, picked the leaf on the other side then continued its journey.

The man was captivated by the cleverness of the ant, one of God's tiniest creatures.
The incident left the man in awe and forced him to contemplate over
the miracle of Creation.

It showed the greatness of the Creator. In front of his eyes there was
this tiny creature of God, lacking in size yet equipped with a brain to analyze,
 contemplate, reason, explore, discover and overcome. Along with all these
 capabilities, the man also noticed that this tiny creature shared
some human shortcomings.

The man saw about an hour later the creature had reached its destination –
a tiny hole in the floor which was an entrance to its underground dwelling.
And it was at this point that the ant's shortcoming that it shared with
the man was revealed. How could the ant carry into the tiny hole the
large leaf that it had managed to carefully bring to the destination?
 It simply couldn't!

So the tiny creature, after all the painstaking and hard work and exercising great skills,
 overcoming all the difficulties along the way, just left behind the
 large leaf and went home empty-handed.



The ant had not thought about the end before it began its challenging journey
and in the end the large leaf was nothing more than a burden to it. The creature
 had no option, but to leave it behind to reach its destination.
The man learned a great lesson that day.

Isn't that the truth about our lives?

We worry about our family, we worry about our job, we worry about
 how to earn more money, we worry about where we should live –
5 bedroom or 6 bedroom house, what kind of vehicle to buy –
 a Mercedes or BMW or a Porsche, what kind of dresses to wear,
all sorts of things, only to abandon all these things when we reach our destination –
The Grave.

 We don't realise in our life's journey that these are just burdens that
we are carrying with utmost care and fear of losing them, only to find
 that at the end they are useless and we can't take them with us.





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Are You Reactive or Responsive Person?




 

In life, we have essentially two psychological modes that we are in most of the time: reactive and responsive. The reactive mode is the one that feels stressful. In it, we feel pressured and are quick to judge. We lose perspective and take things personally. We're annoyed, bothered, and frustrated.

Needless to say, our judgment and decision making capacity is severely impaired when we are in a reactive state of mind. We make quick decisions that we often regret. We annoy other people and tend to bring out the worst in them. When an opportunity knocks, we are usually too overwhelmed or frustrated to see it. If we do see it, we're usually overly critical and negative.

The responsive mode, on the other hand, is our most relaxed state of mind. Being responsive suggests that we have our bearings. We see the bigger picture and take things less personally. Rather than being rigid and stubborn, we are flexible and calm. In the responsive mode, we are at our best. We bring out the best in others and solve problems gracefully. When an opportunity comes our way, our mind is open. We are receptive to new ideas.

Once you are aware of these two drastically different modes of being. You will begin to notice which one you are in. You'll also notice the predictability of your behavior and feelings when you are in each mode. You'll observe yourself being irrational and negative in your reactive mode and calm and wise in your responsive state of mind.

29 Hilarious Signs Will Make You Smile


Signs are supposed to direct us to certain places or inform us of what we can and cannot do. Signs can be universal just by using pictures so they are easily understood by all.
All of these signs are a little confused, as they seem to raise more questions than answers.
1. If you want to cycle, you are going to have a bad time.
2. Just keep it left.
3. This sign is clearly just as confused as the one above.

4. Probably best to just avoid these pills all together.
5. Which one is it?!
6. Well thats cleared it all up.

7. Zombie Children on the loose.






























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HEALTH: 20 Great Uses for Black Pepper



There's good reason why black pepper is considered the 'king of spices'. With its aromatic appeal, a culinary selection and a large variety of medicinal advantages, black pepper has gained a place of honor in any kitchen or spice rack, and even in the medicine cabinet.

Since ancient times, pepper appeared in many medicinal arts, for its ability to calm stomach ache, reduce liver problems, lung diseases and digestion problems, as well as improve blood flow, acting as an anti-depressant and reduce the risk of Colorectal Cancer. 
My granny taught me a few great uses for this spice, and now I'll share a few with you. 
1. To keep your cholesterol low - Add a 1/4 spoon of black pepper to a glass of buttermilk. Mix in some finely cut onion and drink.

2. Dealing with cold feet - Put black pepper grains, a few pieces of garlic and mustard grains in a cloth bag and hang around your neck.

3. To lose weight - Add a 1/4 spoon of ground black pepper to a glass of water and add 2 spoons of lemon juice and a spoon of honey. Mix well and drink daily.

4. To reduce fever - Take 7-8 leaves of basil and 3-4 grains of black pepper and chew them together.
5. To treat a cold - Make some tea and add 2-3 grains of ground black pepper, a piece of ginger and basil leaves.
6. To relieve a dry cough - Grind 5-6 seeds of black pepper and mix with natural honey. Swallow a spoon of this mix daily until relief is achieved. 

7. To relieve asthma attacks - Boil 8-10 grains of pepper, add 2 clove buds and 10-15 basil leaves to the water. Let the brew sit for about 15 minutes, strain it and add 2 spoons of honey. Tip: Drink with milk!

8. Treating a sore throat - Squeeze some lemon juice, add a bit of salt and ground black pepper - and gurgle.

9. To treat a chronic cold - Consume ground black pepper with some dates.

10. To open a blocked up nose - Mix equal amounts of black pepper, cinnamon, Cumin and cardamom seeds. Grind to a thin powder and smell or inhale the mixture. This will cause healthy sneezing and will open the nose ducts.

11. To relieve any kind of cough - Grind some black pepper and add sugar. Consume the mix with clarified butter.

12. To ease a heavy cough - add 2-3 grains of black pepper to a glass of boiling hot milk, wait for it to cool a bit and then drink.

13. Treating toothache - Mix ground black pepper with clove oil. Smear the ointment on the afflicted area. 

14. To treat indigestion - Mix some black pepper with ginger juice and sip after every meal.

15. Relieve nausea - Mix black pepper and water in a glass, add some fresh lemon juice, mix and drink slowly.

16. Treating skin conditions - Prepare an ointment from ground black pepper and refined butter. Apply to skin conditions such as allergy rash, Eczema and scabies.

17. To fight baldness - Make a thick mix from black pepper and lemon seeds. Apply it daily to the balding areas about 10 minutes before showering. The solution should help revitalize hair growth.

18. To deal with hemorrhoids - Grind and mix 20 grams of black pepper, 10 grams of cumin and 15 grams of sugar. Mix in water and drink morning and evening, each day.

19. To stop bleeding - Cover the bleeding wound with
 ground black pepper. Bandage with a paper towel and tighten with cello-tape. Wait 10 minutes and the bleeding will stop.