Do You Judge People Fairly? The Story of the Blind Kids and the Elephant Once upon a time, three blind kids who had never heard of a...

Do You Judge People Fairly?

The Story of the Blind Kids and the Elephant

Once upon a time, three blind kids who had never heard of an elephant were taken near to one. The first kid, who touched the elephant's tail, commented that the elephant was hairy and thin. The second kid, who touched the elephant's legs, concluded that the elephant was very fat and an immovable thing. The third kid, who touched the elephant's trunk, said that the elephant was a curvy, moving object. Do you think any of the kids said the right thing? Do you think that instant comments by any kid were the right approach?

Reflecting on Instant Judgments

Do you think you behave just like the blind kids, giving instantaneous conclusive comments about people instead of judging them properly? In fact, sometimes you might behave worse than that. You associate things with people which are never supposed to be concluded in that way. Sometimes you do character assassination of people and put their respect at stake. Isn't it unfair?

How to Judge People Fairly

1. Be Positive

Even if you notice something negative about someone, don't conclude about it immediately. There is a chance your brain is thinking against the reality. Don't let your brain cook up a bad story. Explore the negative observation extensively but avoid spying on someone. Be straightforward and upfront.

2. Physical Appearance Is Not Everything

Don't judge people by their looks. A person in normal clothes and in a normal vehicle might be better than a person in a brand new Mercedes or BMW. On the contrary, a rich man can also be equally a great person.

3. Look for Ethical Richness

When judging people, look for ethical richness such as honesty, truthfulness, simplicity, behavior, friendliness, and a down-to-earth attitude.

4. Focus on the Positive

A fly will always sit on the dirty and rotten part of the tomato. Never do this in your life. Every person has good and bad habits. Look at the positive side of things. If you feel something is wrong, talk about it but don't spread negative information about someone. Hate the bad habit, not the person.