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Story of Farmer's daughter

A young man wished to marry the farmer's beautiful daughter. He went to the farmer to ask his permission.

The farmer looked him over and said,

"Son, go stand out in that field. I'm going to release three bulls, one at a time. If you can catch the tail of any one of the three bulls, you can marry my daughter."

The young man stood in the pasture awaiting the first bull.

The barn door opened and out ran the biggest, meanest-looking bull he had ever seen. He decided that one of the next bulls had to be a better choice than this one, so he ran over to the side and let the bull pass through the pasture out the back gate.

The barn door opened again. Unbelievable. He had never seen anything so big and fierce in his life. It stood pawing the ground, grunting, slinging slobber as it eyed him. Whatever the next bull was like, it had to be a better choice than this one. He ran to the fence and let the bull pass through the pasture, out the back gate.

The door opened a third time. A smile came across his face. This was the weakest, scrawniest little bull he had ever seen. This one was his bull. As the bull came running by, he positioned himself just right and jumped at just the exact moment.

He grabbed… but the bull had no tail!


Moral

Life is full of opportunities. Some will be easy to take advantage of, some will be difficult. But once we let them pass (often in hopes of something better), those opportunities may never again be available. So always grab the first opportunity

How to get the truth out of someone

By: Michael Lee If you want to know how to get the truth out of someone, there are a few tricks you can learn here. Of course, most of these have psychological bases. There is no need to resort to violence when you can easily extract truthful information in less demanding ways.

This article will teach you simple ways on how to get the truth out of someone. Read on to find out more!

1) Use The "Good Cop, Bad Cop" Tactic.

This is one of the most popular truth extraction strategies in the world. Policemen have been using it for decades. So how does good cop, bad cop work exactly? Simple.

Two of you will interrogate, so to speak, the person under scrutiny. One of you will play the good cop while the other one will take on the role of the bad cop. The good cop tells the target that they are in good hands, that they can get out of the sticky situation if only they told the truth. And then the bad cop comes in to scare the person into submitting.

In this sort of situation, the good cop usually gets the confession. The good cop gives the person some reassurance that all will be well in the end. The bad cop is merely a decoration.

2) Look Them In The Eye.

Another tactic you can use on how to get the truth out of someone is the "look me straight in the eye" strategy. This is very effective when used on people you are close to or on people who are very close to you. Chances are, the person who you consider to be a friend or part of the family, will feel guilty for lying or hiding something from you.

Ask them to look you straight in the eye when you demand an answer. Or you can look them straight n the eye yourself. When the person in question can't even meet your gaze, something is up. It won't take a lot of persuading to get that person to spill the beans.

3) Make Peace Relations.

Telling a person that you don't want any trouble or that you won't cause any problems is another way on how to get the truth out of someone. Usually, people lie or hide the truth because they're afraid of what our reaction will be. If you reassure them that you won't get angry or won't "punish" them, they'll be more likely to open up to you.

Knowing how to get the truth out of someone is very important. However, be mindful of who you use it on and when you use it. Don't let this power sway you over to the dark side. Use this knowledge only when necessary and not as a way to make someone a complete laughingstock. There is no need to resort to violence when you can easily extract truthful information in less demanding ways. This article will teach you simple ways on how to get the truth out of someone.Discover secret mind control techniques to easily put people under your control and make them fulfill your every desire, without them knowing it! Get a FREE course that reveals some of the most groundbreaking persuasion secrets at http://www.20daypersuasion.com/secrets.htmArticleSource: http://www.positivearticles.com. PositiveArticles.Com does not vouch for or necessarily endorse the contents of this article

 


 

M Junaid Tahir
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21 Indispensible qualities of a leader


1. Character: Be a Piece of the Rock.
2. Charisma: The First Impression Can Seal the Deal.
3. Commitment: It Separates Doers from Dreamers.
4. Communication: Without It You Travel Alone.
5. Competence: If You Build It, They Will Come.
6. Courage: One Person with Courage is a Majority.
7. Discernment: Put an end to Unsolved Mysteries.
8. Focus: The Sharper It Is, the Sharper You Are.
9. Generosity: Your Candle Loses Nothing When It Lights Another.
10. Initiative: You Won't Leave Home Without It.
11. Listening: To Connect with Their Hearts, Use Your Ears
12. Passion: Take This Life and Love It
13. Positive Attitude: If You Believe You Can, You Can
14. Problem Solving: You Can't Let Your Problems Be a Problem
15. Relationships: If You Get Along, They've Go Along
16. Responsibility: If You Won't Carry the Ball, You Can't Lead the Team
17. Security: Competence Never Compensates for Insecurity
18. Self-Discipline: The First Person You Lead is You
19. Servant hood: To Get Ahead, Put Others First
20. Teachability: To Keep Leading, Keep Learning
21. Vision: You Can Seize Only What You Can See



Basic Rules to Stay Young

 

1.    Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down.

 

2.    Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever. Never let the brain idle. 'An idle mind is the devil's workshop.'

 

3.    Enjoy the simple things.

 

4.    Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.

 

5.    The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person, who is with us our entire life, is ourselves. Be ALIVE while you are alive.

 

6.    Surround yourself with what you love , whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, plants, hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge.

 

7.    Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.

 

8.    Don't take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county; to a foreign country but NOT to where the guilt is.

 

9.    Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.  AND ALWAYS REMEMBER :

10. Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

 

 Junaid Tahir

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Mobile Phone Display Technologies LED, OLED, MOLED, LCD, TFT


LED (Light-Emitting Diode)

A semiconductor diode that emits light when charged with electricity. They come in diverse colors and some LEDs even contain multiple elements and are therefore capable of emitting light with different colors.

LEDs are used for displays, for keypad or display backlighting, etc. Bright white LEDs also can be used as flashlights and flashes for mobile phones. Even if they are not as bright as the xenon flash, LEDs are much more compact and require less energy - and also can be used as video light.


OLED (Organic Light-Emitting Diode)

A display technology that consists of small dots of organic polymer which emit light when charged with electricity.

OLED displays have several advantages over the LCDs. They are thinner, lighter, brighter, need less power, have better viewing angles, contrast and response time for video and animation. OLEDs are also cheaper and easier to manufacture.

On the other hand, LCDs offer better legibility in bright ambient light.




AMOLED display (Active-matrix organic light-emitting diode)

AMOLED is an emerging display technology used in portable devices like mobile phones. Active-matrix OLED displays provide the same performance as their passive-matrix OLED counterparts, but they consume significantly less power.

This advantage makes active-matrix OLEDs well suited for portable electronics where battery power consumption is critical.




LCD (Liquid Crystal Display)

A liquid crystal display is the most common display type among mobile phones because of its low power consumption and good image quality. They are generally easy to read, even under direct sunlight.

The smallest element of an image displayed on a LCD is the pixel. Each pixel normally consists of a layer of molecules aligned between two transparent electrodes, and two polarizing filters.

Some of the types of LCD displays are STN, TFT and TFD. The first one, STN, offers low cost and low power consumption, but low image quality. TFT features greater image quality and response time, yet its displays are more expensive and need more power.

Three other types of LCDs are transmissive, reflective, or transflective. Transmissive displays offer nicer image quality in low or medium ambient light, while reflective ones work best in bright ambient light. Transflective displays combine the best of both.

TFT (Thin Film Transistor)

TFT is one of the best Liquid Cristal Display technologies in terms of image quality and response time. However, it also consumes more power and is more expensive.

TFT, like TFD, is an active-matrix technology. This means a transistor is located next to each pixel, allowing it to be turned on and off individually. This ensures faster response time and greater contrast.

Jealous because of success of others?

Let's be honest here :)
 
Have you ever found yourself secretly wishing someone else would fail? I don't mean you wish them any serious bad luck, only that they don't become more successful than you?
 
Sometimes it's hard to wish others well, particularly those you know well – friends, colleagues, neighbors, family members. It's hard to see a colleague get the promotion you worked so hard for. It's difficult to see your friend on television, or your neighbor able to purchase a new car. 
   
While it can be seductive, or at least habitual, to secretly desire to keep others at your level, it's absolutely not in your best interest. The way to rise to the top is to wish everyone well, to hope with all your heart that everyone can expand to their greatest potential, to wish that the people you know, and those whom you don't know, can all realize their dreams and achieve greatness.
   
When you wish someone well, it creates a momentum within you, an inner environment of success. It reminds your spirit of your loving and deserving nature. It creates the atmosphere within you to help you succeed and create abundance. When you delight in the success of others, it's as if you are sprinkling the seeds for a garden of success.
   
As you wish others well, notice how good it feels. When your wishes are sincere, they will serve as a reminder that giving and receiving are two sides of the same coin.
 
Truly, it feels as good to see someone else succeed as it does to succeed yourself. Start delighting in the success of others and watch your own level of greatness soar!

10 Tips to Simplify Your Life





Over the last decade or so life has consistently been enriched because of more and more facilities, on-going gadgets inventions and day by day increment in luxuries. This is quite exciting however during the same period of time, people have increased their love for materialistic things abruptly which has directly or indirectly reduced their overall happiness index. Now a days, we have more luxuries but less delights and high stress levels. We have more sugar, blood and heart patients then it used to be a decade back. The reason for all the stress and anxiety is simple that we are not living a simple life.


Below are some tips which can simplify your life and may amplify the happiness scale of your life.

1-    Avoid getting influenced: You don't have to follow every single trend in society. If your friend has purchased a new BMW, you don't need to buy a Mercedes to impress. Live for yourself not for others. If you purchase a high-end luxury car today, your love for this will end soon and you will be selling it at considerable financial loss though I am not forbidding to purchase luxury things once in a considerable duration of time.
2-   Avoid impulse buying: You don't need to buy every single gadget instantly which you like in this shop. Do your Needs Vs Wants analysis. Buy only if it is really increasing your peace of mind. Remember that now a days the standard life of every gadget (phone, tablet, laptop, jewelry etc) is more or less 6 months because of new and new products release by several companies.
 
3-   The 6 months Rule: Generally speaking, anything which has not been used in last 6 months will not be used in next 6 months most likely. Give such things (shoes, garments, toys, mobiles, house hold items) in charity. This will help spreading happiness in society and reducing your space at home.



 
4-   Avoid Credit Cards Usage: Avoid this as much as you can. Debt is a silent stress and eating up your mental health slowly. Your brain might get old while you are young at heart. You might develop high BP or sugar because of stress due to credit. Live a credit-free life.
 
5-   Learn to say No: Don't accept every single attractive offer from the bank representative or a car loan company. Do your "Needs Vs Wants" analysis. Careful spending is always recommended.
 
6-   Reduce too much social gatherings: Stay at home. Spend quality time with your spouse and kids for empowered relationships. You don't have to say yes every time to your friend who is coming to pick you from home to join another late night social get together. 

 
7-   Reduce your love for money: Careful spending and saving is important but don't allow your brain to keep doing the calculations all day long. You love for money is pulling your brain strings and damaging your peace of mind silently. Stay away from too much thoughts about your financials.

 
8-   Less TV more Books: It is proven that people who watch more movies generate high level of stress. Read quality books to learn wisdom and attain high degree of happiness.

 
9-   Spend time with Nature: Instead of going to cinemas and malls repeatedly, spend time in parks. This will relax your brain, body and soul.

 
10- Change your eating habits: why eating lavish foods by visiting costly restaurants again and again in a week. The purpose of food is to fill your belly for some hours. So the suggestion here is to go for simpler and healthier food. Remember, most of the food items in the market are fried which are increasing your cholesterol level silently hence making you a heart patient in the long run!

Work on your real wealth and live a happy life !!!

Measuring Stress


Interestingly they have given 50 Stress points for Marriage :)
Stress scales are lists of life events that can contribute to illness in an individual. The most common scale is the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale, also known as the Social Readjustment Rating Scale, or SRRS.[20] Developed by psychiatrists Thomas Holmes and Richard Rahe in 1967, the scale lists 43 events that can cause stress.
To calculate one's score, add up the number of "life change units" if an event occurred in the past year. A score of more than 300 means that individual is at risk for illness, a score between 150 and 299 means risk of illness is moderate, and a score under 150 means that individual only has a slight risk of illness.[18][20]

Success advice: The "You"

Accept Responsibility.
You and you alone are responsible for your success. While you will have help in many instances, the bottom line is that you are responsible. You need to be surrounded by the right people, working with the right investors, going about meeting your success in the right way. It is you that will make the choices and therefore, your responsibility to make the right choices. In other words, your desire for success must always be greater that any obstacle that stands in your way.

Relationships advice: Start Over

Start Over.
When couples first get together, everything is new and exciting. They overlook the little annoying things the other person does. However, after time, the nagging starts, instead of hearing, You look beautiful, they might hear Why are you wearing that shirt? If this sounds like your relationship, first, the two of you need to sit down and be honest that things have changed. Identify the things each other did in the beginning of the relationship that created the attraction in the first place. Then together, make a commitment to start over. The truth is, both of you will have to work on this. It will not automatically be easy but it is possible. Start by forgiving each other, forgetting the past, and then start over with the flirtation. Focus only on the special things your mate does and relearn to put the unimportant things aside. It will take some time so be patient.

Success advice: Avoid Toxic Poisoning

Toxic Poisoning.
No, we are not talking about actual poison but toxic people that can poison. Unfortunately, it would be great if close friends or co-workers could share in your success but all too often, there will be someone who is either dealing with the green monster of jealousy or has a case of the I knew that syndrome. If you are serious about reaching your goal and being successful, you will need to rid your life of these people. While you may not be able to get them out of your life completely, you should avoid them as best as possible. If this is a person, you see every day, keep your goals to yourself, and avoid that specific subject.

Medical: Heart Burn symptoms and treatment



What is heartburn?

Despite its name, heartburn doesn't affect the heart. Heartburn is a burning feeling in the lower chest, along with a sour or bitter taste in the throat and mouth. It usually occurs after eating a big meal or while lying down. The feeling can last for a few minutes or a few hours.
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What causes heartburn?

Success advice: Reward yourself

Rewards.
When children do something great, parents will reward them with something nice, whether a kind word of encouragement or a new toy. When people do well in their job, they get raises. As you surpass your milestones, reward yourself. Treat yourself to something nice - a new dress, a new fishing pole, whatever you like, be sure to award yourself for a job well done.

Success advice: want vs need

Want Versus Need.
When you strive for success, do it because you want it, not because you need it. When you want something, it brings about intention, desire, and action. However, when you need something, it will lead to
pain, stress, and frustration.

D.E.V.E.L.O.P


 
Describe the performance problem in objective terms. As you begin a performance dialogue with an employee, it is important to focus on specific, observable behavior. People resent personal attacks and are more open to hearing about aspects of their behavior that need to change. 
 
Express your opinion regarding the performance.
 
Value the employee. When giving performance feedback, it is critical that you clearly describe the behavior that is inappropriate, or needs to change.It is important to value the employee's other contributions when providing feedback that addresses a particular concern.
 
Encourage input. With the right approach, employees should feel encouraged to talk about their view of the problem and more importantly, ideas they have to address the problem. In some cases, the manager will need to be direct about how the employee should change his or her behavior. In most cases we find that employees can generate their own solutions to behavior that has been identified as inappropriate or counter productive. Employees are always more motivated to try their own suggestions for improved performance.

 
Listen. Leadership is based on a relationship. You can't build a solid relationship based on trust and respect if you don't listen. Listening says, "I care." Listening helps you identify, from the employee's perspective, why there might be a problem. Listening gives you time to begin thinking about solutions that might work to fix the problem. A great coach asks questions, listens to the response, and acts accordingly. It's no coincidence that the best coaches are also the best listeners.
 
Outline future behaviors. After you have clearly identified the problem and had a dialogue with the employee about what will change, it is important to clearly outline the behavior you expect to see in the future.
Project outcomes, both positive and negative, related to the performance you are discussing. Sometimes there are positive consequences for the poor performance.

Like every other skill you've acquired, coaching takes practice. Work hard to help your employees D.E.V.E.L.O. P. The payoff is improved performance, better morale, greater retention of team members and less stress

Frustration



There is nothing that makes you frustrated. 
Any frustration you experience is the result of 
your own choice to react with frustration. 

There is nothing that makes you annoyed. 
Any annoyance you experience comes about because 
you have decided to be annoyed. 

You can choose to be annoyed, 
frustrated, angry, and spiteful. 
You can also choose not to be. 

Imagine how effective you could be if there was nothing that annoyed you. 
That level of effectiveness is yours to choose, right here, right now. 

All sorts of things will happen in your world today. 
You can let them get to you, and annoy and frustrate you, 
or you can choose to follow your own path. 

You have the power to be free of frustration, free of annoyance, 
free to accomplish and enjoy life. Choose that freedom today.
~Ralph Marston~

Story - Sharpen your skills


Once upon a time a very strong woodcutter asked for a job with a timber merchant, and he got it. His salary was really good and so were the working conditions. For that reason, the woodcutter was determined to do his best.
His boss gave him an axe and showed him the area where he was supposed to fell the trees. The first day, the woodcutter brought down 15 trees.


" Congratulations," the boss said. " Carry on with your work!"
Highly motivated by the words of his boss, the woodcutter tried harder the next day, but he only could bring 10 trees down. The third day he tried even harder, but he was only able to bring down 7 trees.


Day after day he was bringing lesser number of trees down.
" I must be losing my strength", the woodcutter thought. He went to the boss and apologized, saying that he could not understand what was going on.
" When was the last time you sharpened your axe?" the boss asked.
" Sharpen? I had no time to sharpen my axe. I have been very busy trying to cut trees..."

That's right. Most of us NEVER update our skills. We think that whatever we have learned is very much enough. But good is not good when better is expected. Sharpening our skills from time to time is the key to success.

Story: Keeping Others Happy

A 10 year old boy went to an Ice cream shop & asked how much a cone costs. waiter said "Rs. 18" then the boy started counting how much he had. n he asked how much does a small cone costs. the Irritated waiter said "Rs. 15". then the boy ordered for a small cone. he ate, paid the bill & left. when the waiter came to pick the plate he was surprised, the boy had left Rs.3 as tips for him :)

Always Try To Make Everyone Happy With Whatever You Have. How do you plan to do it TODAY?

52 Character Building Thoughts for your kids

By Leah Davies, M.Ed.
The following quotes may be used in a variety of ways by both teachers and counselors. One idea is for a thought to be posted, read, and discussed at the beginning of each week. It could then be read daily with the students. At the end of the week ask them what they learned or how the thought applied to their lives or activities during the week. Have the children give written or oral examples, or have them draw a picture to illustrate their ideas.
  1. How I look is not as important as how I act.
  2. I treat others the way I want them to treat me.
  3. I am a good sport; I follow the rules, take turns and play fair.
  4. It is okay to laugh at funny things, but not to laugh at others.
  5. I do not gossip; if I cannot say anything helpful, I do not say anything at all.
  6. When I am sad, I help myself feel better by thinking of things that are good in my life.
  7. In order to have friends, I must act in a kind way.
  8. I believe that I am someone who can do important things.
  9. What I say and how I say it tells others the kind of person I am.

How to Handle Frequent Mood Swings





In a particular day, you may pass through several mood swings depending upon your circumstances. For instance you are sad, or happy, irritated, annoyed, stressful, depressed, cheerful or angry at different moments of time. As long as you are happy, everyone around you is fine with that however if you have a lot of mood swings in terms of being irritated, annoyed, sad, angry, reactive or stubborn it becomes a challenge for others to move along with you. Because of your swift mood swings your personality becomes unpredictable. The more unpredictable you become for others, the more likely you have the chance to lose your respect within your friends, family and colleagues.

So how to control these mood swings? Below are some points which you need to ponder on:
1-    Analyze yourself on what are the triggers which cause your mood swings? is this an event, or comment or act or presence of a person?  Fix the problem or start loving it. 
2-   Respect the fact that every single soul is a unique in terms of thinking and acting. You cannot order people to follow your way of thinking and living. Relax. Give respect to earn respect. It takes two hands to clap.
3-   Write down your triggers on a paper. You will notice that your problem is not that much big!
4-   Discuss your issue with the person and find out a solution. Be flexible. You may not be right in your demands or you may be completely wrong in your demands. Be honest, analytical and logical while you share your comments and desires.
5-   Observe others on how they react in different kind of circumstances. Find out a mentor in your life you can follow. Or even you can observe everyone because everyone has something to teach you. Closely observe. 
6-   Avoid taking stress. The more you take stress the more you lose control on your emotions and become unpredictable. Read my article on Stress by clicking here  and clicking here 
7-   Develop Trust in your relations so that people feel easy to get along with you.

What are your thoughts in controlling your mood swings? 

About Author: Junaid Tahir, a telecom engineer and a blogger, writes articles on wisdom, happiness and stress management. His articles can be read Here

Some Quotes from my self-improvement diary



1.     Failing to plan is planning to fail.
2.    Winners don't do different things, they do things differently.
3.    Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend a little than to break.
4.    Time management is life management so guard your time with great care
5.    You must discover that which makes us unique.
6.    We must become the change we want to see. --Mahatma Gandhi
7.    If you do everything with the feeling of happiness, there will be no task too difficult to perform."
8.    Know more than other, work more than others, expect less than others. (Three keys to success)
9.    Don't compare yourself with someone else, if you do so, you are insulting yourself.

Tips for Self-development



1. Start now Do something about your self-development today. Tomorrow, you can build on that.
2. Write down what you want to achieve Keep it brief – perhaps three outcomes. Monitor what happens. Don't feel bad if you modify your plan – life is about change. Whether you succeed or not, learn from the experience.
3. Learn from other people Notice what other people do and learn from them. You can gain from their successes and their mistakes. Experience is a harsh teacher, but less so if it's someone else's experience
4. Embrace change If people and ideas didn't change, we'd still be in the Stone Age.

Are you working or serving?



One evening a scholar was addressing the participants on the concept of work culture.
 
One of the participants asked the following question:
"I am a senior manager of Materials Department and I joined an organization 25 years ago as an Engineer Trainee and over the last 25 years I have gone through every experience in the organization. During the initial part of my career,
the job was very challenging and interesting. However, all those exciting days are gone since I do not find my joy any more interesting because there is nothing new in my job. I am now feeling bored because I am doing a routine job.
Please tell me why I am bored of the routine in the office and not in the house?"